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Time for an update...

Kahlo called me from Mexico a few days ago! It was so nice to hear from him, to know he's thinking about me in the midst of old family and friends and activities down there. It made my day. We had a nice 20 minute chat. He talked about future plans for when he gets back. Mmm, I really like this guy.

In other "dating" news, well. I got a message from this 30 something guy on Fetlife. I rarely have an interest in the people who message me there, but this is a bit intriguing. I'll just call him Rick for now...

He has a vision of a pagan/kink community. He has 4 subs, female, in a leather family kind of thing. His profile says he is "considering" 2 more, a male and a female. Everyone is from early 20s to late 30s. He finds me "worthy and honorable" to consider me for his growing community.

It could be a cult, I don't know. I am half amused by it, half interested. I don't think I'd fit in, given my age, and the distance to his house, an hour away. And I guess there is group sex/kink/ritual involved on a weekly basis. I'm not really into orgies, but who knows? He has a vision for everyone to live together at some point, when they are organised and financially ready. And of course, I love my house with just Pixi so that's not gonna happen. I didn't tell him this, because I want to meet him just out of curiosity.

He is meeting me for dinner tonight in my town. I am bringing Pixi, since he's bringing one of his subs. She is curious too (and so is her bf, whom she told about it!).

He's really cute and friendly/flirty, artistic, literate, very well spoken. I guess if it's a cult, I am in the love-bombing stage. lol I'm an open minded person, but also sane and rational, so we'll see what we find out!

In other news, my back, which I apparently injured close to three weeks ago, got worse Monday... and worse and worse, then a bit better. It spread to my butt, and down my left leg, especially my knee. The knee is the only part still hurting beside my lower back now. I'm thinking it's sciatica. I went to chiro today and he did some different adjustments. Hopefully they help!

I'm doing fine on one gabapentin for my neck issues. Twice I took one extra during the day when I did develop a headache. But it all feels much looser and comfortable in that area of my spine, at least.

We went and picked up my new glasses a week ago. They are so cute. Bigger lenses than my old ones, cat eye tortoiseshell, much more flattering, trendy and retro looking! Loving them and getting lots of compliments.

I'll report in again after my dinner with Rick!
 
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Mags,

Glad you are not going to this alone. I guess I am just cautious.

Very sorry to hear about your back problem. I hope its not a disc issue because they will need to do MRI before they can give you cortisone shot if you want that to relieve the pain.

Very happy your guhy in mexico is thinking of you.

Feel better
 
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Mags,

Glad you are not going to this alone. I guess I am just cautious.
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Oh, I would have been fine alone. We are meeting at a neighborhood pub 5 minutes away. I get no stalkerish vibes from him at all. But thanks very much for your concern!

Pixi and I know of an established pagan/BDSM community/farm in our state, have visited it and read the books the leader and his boy co-wrote. So we are not unfamiliar with pagan BDSM rituals and communities. We want to see if this is a similar group in its earlier stages. It could all just be a juvenile pipe dream. We'll see!
Very sorry to hear about your back problem. I hope its not a disc issue because they will need to do MRI before they can give you cortisone shot if you want that to relieve the pain.
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Thanks. I had 2 herniated discs last summer and I've had lots of xrays and MRIs, and actually had a cortisone shot in my knee before, when I had a fall. It was determined I have "arthritis" by the orthopedist that gave me the shots. Now I also suspect sciatica. I might go to my GP soon to see if I can get cortisone again, or whatever, if this continues.

Very happy your guy in Mexico is thinking of you.
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Me too! It's so heart warming.:eek:

Feel better.
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Thanks very much. This has been hard. I've been living with issues from my spine so long, and combined with still recovering from chemo, it's kind of making me nuts.
 
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MAGS,

Thanks very much. This has been hard. I've been living with issues from my spine so long, and combined with still recovering from chemo, it's kind of making me nuts.

Not nuts but you are one TOUGH cookie. Reading what you have been through has made me hurt, and I have no physical problems to speak of. And to still be so full of life is inspiring.
 
Pixi didn't end up coming with me to meet Rick and his gf. She'd finally had her business meeting with the director of her camp that morning, and was being very thinky about how it went and what her future role would be. A good thing! She didn't feel she would've been present for the social occasion, plus she kind of thought it was "my" thing, not hers, so I went alone.

The meeting/date was fun. I am definitely outside my comfort place, but that's OK, I love new experiences. We only live once!

Rick and his gf were really nice. He is outgoing, almost hyper, full of ideas and fun, extremely smart and intellectual. She was calmer, friendly, pleasant, open, gave good eye contact, and obviously really in love with Rick. I won't deny it was weird to meet 2 members of a poly couple at once. Normally if there is going to be a connection with a guy on a date, I like to flirt a little and have him flirt back. But I felt odd doing that with her right there.

It wasn't until near the end, where Rick was being all enthused about really liking me, and so glad to meet me, and giving me warm enveloping goodbye hugs, that we were a bit flirty and suggestive with each other. The gf was fine and smiling and kind of kidding around too.

We talked about many things, spirituality and technology and books, and life stories, jobs, families, as well as how their group interacts and so on.

Rick messaged me on Fet when he got home. I didn't see that til the next day, but on my own I texted him because he'd sent me the name of a book he thought I'd like, and I told him I got it. Then we talked more about our chemistry. He also told me his gf liked me. I asked if all his subs were bi. I hadn't really been sure of what their interactions with each other were. Yes, they are bi. And while all being subs to him, there is a hierarchy where each sub is submissive to the woman above her in the hierarchy, during sex scenes.

Oddly I hadn't yet spent much time imagining interacting sexually with his gf and their 2 subs. (His profile lists 3 others besides the gf but apparently right now there are only 2 others.) Since I need to like someone, their vibe, their MIND, before being attracted sexually, I think it will be a process until if and when I will be moved to take part in anything other than with Rick alone.

I did like the gf too, but on the date I was thinking of her more as a friendly metamour than a possible sex partner! But that is definitely part of the agenda as far as they are concerned. I never "date couples" but I don't feel like, pressured, to interact with her. She was just very cool and nice and non threatening. I liked that she seemed so confident around me as far as watching me interact with Rick. Oh, I could go on and on, but I guess that's enough to write down as I ruminate on all this.

So yesterday, Saturday, I texted again with Rick. The main physical interaction he is excited about so far, is massaging me. I told them about my bad back on our date. He loves to give massages, and god knows I love to get them, so I am sure it will be lovely foreplay. So I told him because of my chemo fatigue, the earlier part of the day is better for me to make the drive to his town. He wasn't sure of his schedule yet. I suggested Tuesday. He said he knew he was free Monday. But Pixi is at her Master's this weekend and said she wanted me on Monday. So, the next date with Rick is up in the air until he gets back to me. His work schedule is flexible but he wasn't sure if his gf had plans for them. It seems he is the idea man, and she is the practical one that plans details.

My feelings about all this are kind of all over the place lol. I feel excited for a new experience. But at the same time I feel reserved and cautious. I will tread carefully and with a degree of skepticism as I step deeper into the water. It will unfold slowly, since there is a whole social group to get to know individually, and as a group dynamic too. I do like the pagan spiritual vibe and emphasis on self knowledge and depth through BDSM practice. Rick has lots of youthful enthusiasm and joie de vivre.
 
In health news, my last adjustment on Friday at my chiro really seems to have helped with the back and knee pain. He did some different things, and when I got up off the adjustment table to walk down the hall to the roller bed, my knee already felt a little relief.

He warned me severely not to overuse my heating pad. No more than 15 minutes at a time, no more often that once an hour. I have been guilty of using a heating pad for 2 hours at a time. It feels so good! But apparently that brings too much blood flow to the area, which will actually increase the inflammation. So since the appointment I have been using it less. 15 mins on knee, 15 mins on back, then waiting an hour or 2 before using it again. And I am feeling much better, from one thing and another! Much less pain in lower back and knee. Thank god.

I am dying to do more housework but I do NOT dare to do more than cooking and dishes and the bare minimum of decluttering. I always overdo and always pay!
 
Ya know, I've known people who had dreams of communal poly life. I've known some who have tried (Leather households, generally.) I know that I like the idea in theory, but I suspect I would hate it in practice.

Your new friends sound really interesting, though!
 
So, I am driving to Rick's house tomorrow. I requested a one on one date. I assume his gf will be at work.

I had an extra chiro appointment today just to get ready for the drive and the whatever it is he's got planned for me lol. And I'll have one the day after as well.

In other news, I miss Kahlo! I've been saving movies on the DVR to share with him (High Society with Grace Kelly and Sinatra and Bing, and Madam Satan, a Cecille B deMille sex comedy from 1930, really strange and surreal and sexy and a musical besides!).

In other other news, I told Pixi I am sorry I've been such a bad Top since I've been sick, and that is one reason I am seeking male Tops. I just feel more subby when I lack energy and Top fire. She stepped up the past couple days and Topped me when we had sex. She's a wonder. I just love her.

Also I've been slacking on doing dishes since this new sciatica flare up, and that is always my job. So she is doing the sinkful today (we have a dishwasher but not everything goes in there).
 
I had to think over how the date with Rick went... and now I wait to see how things develop.

It was a great date. He massaged me for an hour, which was wonderful, and then we had sex for about 3 hours. And finally cuddling for an hour, talking and resting. He's super nice and so giving in sex. I've never been given so much oral. He has a great cock too. Mmhmm.

And he is so intelligent. I am just a sucker for an intelligent literate guy. He knows a ton about books and philosophy, Shakespeare, cutting edge science, and history and music and all that.

However now I wait and see where I fit in to his plans/lifetyle. We discussed him and his main gf coming here to play. But he hasn't been communicating since a few short texts on the weekend. I'm not gonna push things... I am not sure this whole group thing is for me anyway.

He thinks I will add to the group because I am "artistic and sensitive and experienced." Plus he thinks I am so lovely and pretty and all that. And apparently delicious.

He likes that I have so much counseling experience from my time counseling women around lactation and parenting in La Leche League. He wants his group to be a sisterhood where everyone mentors each other according to their talents and skills. It sounds charming, if a bit naive and idealistic.

He had said that on Sunday their group was meeting as they do every 2 weeks, to go over "house" issues. One tough issue was letting one very young woman go. Seems she is trying to cowgirl him away. As if!
 
I went ahead and texted Rick this morning... haven't heard from his since Saturday. He had said on our date he and his main gf would come visit me next, and she is on top of scheduling so he'd consult with her and let me know. But I've heard nothing. No word since my text 5 hours ago either.

Ugh. Pixi says maybe there was some ugly drama at their group's meeting on Sunday, around breaking up with the cowgirl. I wish he'd let me know though. This is bothering more than I should be letting it. I knew going in it was an experiment. Now I kind of wish I hadn't opened myself up to it.

I know he and his gf liked me. He said it, he showed it. So I just want a little contact. Gah. He's probably overwhelmed.

It would help if Kahlo would call me again, but he hasn't. I think he comes back to the US on November 5th.



In health news, my chiro sent me for knee x-rays, I got them done yesterday. My left knee especially is still quite painful. If I had a touch of sciatica, that seems better. He said yeah, might be arthritis, or I might actually be bone on bone there from the years of stress with it being the longer leg and taking so much pressure. I really resent all my health problems. I'm only 62! I feel like I shouldn't be this fucked up yet. If I was past 75 it would be easier to take. So many folks my age are still doing all kinds of physical things.

Anyway, if my knee is really fucked up, my chiro says he knows of a clinic that does stem cell injections that can regrow bone! That sounds better than just cortisone to dull pain, or going for a knee replacement already.

Dealing with my body is like playing Whack a Mole.
 
Just had chiro. X-rays were OK. "Mild" issues as far as what is going on. Still space between the bones. Thank god. He gave me a card for an orthopedic surgeon who can give me cortisone shots and I should be OK. I'll call that guy on Monday.

I got a text from Rick finally, this morning. That was it. One text. Hi, how are you? He's been busy "trying to keep things in order." I responded I'm OK, did you have drama this week? And no response. Seems Solomon is having trouble with all the wives and concubines. :rolleyes::confused::(

Today Pixi has an eye exam. I had one a few weeks ago and got new glasses that are so cool, she is envious. She wants my advice on picking out new frames. She wears contacts but just wants glasses as well, for a break or at camp and stuff. She's due for a checkup anyway.
 
Yesterday was a really good day.

First the good news about my knees. Then Pixi drove us to Boston to our queer clinic. She got her eye exam, I waited. And while I was waiting, Rick finally started texting me! We got everything cleared up. I got to ask my most pressing questions.

Despite what his Fet profile says about owning and training and having people under consideration... that must be outdated, or he keeps it up as history, because now that he is breaking up with the youngest woman, he just has his main live in gf/sub, and one other woman. And me. Not too complicated at all! As far as poly goes lol.

His youngest sub was "unbalancing" everyone, his words, for various reasons he didn't go into, and are none of my business, nor am I interested. But one reason was she had another bf. So she wanted to cowgirl Rick away and just have 2 bfs? Anyway, I guess there has been drama all week. But he says she's definitely on her way out.

So I was feeling uncomfortable with group play with a whole bunch of new people. But now all I have to deal with are Rick and his main gf and one other sub. (I need to pick nicknames.)

They are all fluid bonded. He and his gf say everyone is up to date on tests and are fine. I was concerned if anyone had any other partners outside the group, but once the youngest sub is gone, no one does. And Rick says his subs have to ask permission from him for a new partner, and that condoms are required with outside partners.

Of course, being with women, condoms are stupid. You're told by official sex experts to use gloves and dental dams. I've only ever had one guy use gloves on a first sex date... I always use condoms for intercourse with men (until trust is established), but do oral with no barrier. If you're going to eat a woman out, imo there is little to no pleasure for the giver if there's a dental dam or Saran Wrap in between mouth and pussy!

So I am thinking over this. I've only been with one woman besides Pixi in the past 9 years. We didn't use barriers. I never did use any barriers with Pixi. We'd both been mono for years before we met, and we were tested. And Rick and his gf are very upfront about their safer sex statuses and choices. I've already given Rick oral with no barrier. So giving or getting from the gf should also be acceptable. Especially since STD transmission is lower F to F than M to F anyway.

So. My other question was, how often can I expect to see him/them? He said at least every other week, preferably every week. I said that sounds good. We will see how it all unfolds.

He asked me if he could put me as "under consideration" on his Fet page. I said sure. I checked this morning and sure enough, I'm there. But so are several others, including the one he is dumping, and even one man I'd asked him about last time, who he told me is really too busy to get involved.

So, anyway, it was good to hear from him. After we got business taken care of, he was all bubbly and cute and enthusiastic and "can't wait to see you again, <3 <3 <3 emojis." He's not a surly "I'm a Big Man" dom type at all. Or even a "very shy" dom type, which I've met more than once. He's an outgoing bubbly almost femme kinda guy. Playful. And the sex/kink he gave me was all about me! Maybe he's a Service Top more than anything.

Honestly, Kahlo's style is more challenging/demanding/sadistic when we are doing sex/kink stuff.

So back to the clinic. Pixi and I had the fun of her trying on a million different glasses frames. She was nearly blind from being dilated but after a while she finally settled on a cute trendy pair. She wanted something with colors. She has red/auburn hair. She found frames that are burgundy and a sort of bright olive green, that looked great. They are kinda cats eye shape, like mine, from the same company. Mine are just tortoise though.

Then we decided to go for a burger at a cute hipster place a block down the street. We'd never tried it before. It had outdoor seating as well an indoor. Used to be an old garage. So the dining room has 2 glass garage doors. That whole industrial thing. People watching, burger eating, fighting off cute hungry pushy little urban birds who wanted our food. Checking out all the young urban types and students. Fun!

I drove home in rush hour traffic since Pixi was blinded. I took a nap after all that! Worn out. Damn chemo. It was a great nap though. When I got up, our friend K was visiting. She'd been at a storyteller's group nearby earlier, so had texted to see if she could drop by afterwards. She just passed 2 of the 3 tests she needs to get her Massachusetts teachers certificate and wanted to celebrate! Someone had heard her story via her PBS radio spot over the summer and set up a GoFundMe for her to pay for the certification. (She has her own local TV show advocating for trans rights and she's also the New England women's disc golf champion. She also does other sports, she's world class.)

Once she gets her certificate she can teach regular public school classes at her school. The past 3 years she just has one or 2 kids with challenges that she helps throughout the day. She should get more money once she gets a class. And hopefully be able to move closer to her school. It's in one of the wealthiest Mass towns, so it's an excellent school, and very on top of issues of the day like queer rights, diversity and all that. So she loves it. She teaches the teachers and admins about transgender issues. Etc.

She's a great storyteller. Her TV show about trans issues is so fun to watch because her southern voice is like honey. She's like a freekin 21st century female Mark Twain.

Best day I've had in a while-- knees, check. Boston, glasses, burger, people watching, check. Updates on Rick, check. Nap, check. Visit from K, check.
 
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Best day I've had in a while? Yes. Although the date at Rick's place was really enjoyable, yesterday was an all around good day.

I should add that, after I'd been up and talking with K for a while, I threw together dinner. I'd defrosted salmon the day before, but Pixi and I ended up just having cheese and bread she'd picked up at TJs that day. (baguette and blueberry chevre, yum. And unsalted pistachios and carrots and an apple.)

So I needed to cook the salmon. I sliced an onion thinly and sauteed that w the fish. We had a partial jar of alfredo sauce in the fridge, and also some cooked thin whole wheat spaghetti. In the microwave I steamed some frosen veggies, mixed veg (peas carrots green beans), and also some spinach.

Threw the veggies in with the fish and onions and alfredo sauce, added some ginger and salt and pep, and warmed it all up and served over the warmed up leftover spaghetti. Pixi and K could not stop raving. First of all, it was SO delicious. Secondly, it took mere minutes to make. Even after K left at midnight, Pixi was still raving lol

Pixi is an excellent cook too. We inspire each other to new heights! I feel sorry for people who don't enjoy the fun of cooking creatively.

Then we watched this week's Project Runway and finally went to bed at 2am.

Pixi goes to her Master's today for her usual weekend stay. She won't be home til dinnertime tomorrow night. It's another lovely fall day. I would love to rip into projects. But of course, it would kill my back. I can walk the dog at least. Tomorrow and the next day we are supposed to have a major rainstorm, but it will be nice by Tuesday for Halloween trick or treaters.

Halloween is the one year anniversary of my first chemo infusion.
 
Halloween is the one year anniversary of my first chemo infusion.
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And hopefully no more ever again. You have a really upbeat outlook that I believe has helped you overcome a lot of shit. it's great.
 
Time to update. It's been a rough 11 days but there's a happy ending! I hate to post day to day struggles, but here's the gist.

My arthritic left knee was fucking killing me! Going down and up our steep cellars stairs and getting up off of low furniture was horrendous. So on Wednesday I got a cortisone shot in my left knee. I felt better almost right away from the anesthetic. That wore off after about 24 hours and I had a "cortisone flare." I wasn't expecting that, but looked online and it said to ice it and take 3 ibuprofen. That helped. It's not perfect yet but much better. I am going to get a shot in my right knee this Wednesday too.

I also had a MRI done on my lower back. No changes since the last MRI, no bulging discs. But I still have pain. I think I need to add a couple more therapies, maybe an epidural, and/or joining the gym. In a month or 2 I think my energy levels will allow me to do water exercise.

In relationship news: Pixi and I had to have a talk about our lack of sex life. I am no longer sick enough to not need it, but I think she was still thinking of me as too sick to fuck. Well! Kahlo and I were having sex every 5 days for 6 weeks until he left. Pixi has sex with her bf every weekend. But she and I just weren't having much sex at all, and what we did have was perfunctory. When we talked, she admitted she was so involved in all her house projects she "forgot about sex." We'd kind of gotten in a rut of just watching TV in the evenings and then I'd go to bed. So we need to work on this. We already are trying to connect more romantically.

I hadn't heard from Kahlo besides that one phone call from Mexico. So I texted him early yesterday and he got back to me in the evening. He had a hold up because the friend he'd left his car key with had LOST HIS KEY! I hope he finds it because it's $300 to replace it.

Last night I saw Rick and his main gf. I will call her Glori. It had been about 3 weeks since my one on one first time with Rick. He and Glori had to sort out one of their other gfs. Seems she's still in the family. She has promised to make some changes in her behavior, to continue with the group. We will see. Rick seems positive about it.

He was determined to keep me out of that drama. But god, it was so great to see him and Glori again! I really like her too. I did on our first date, and last night confirmed it. She's so sweet and chill and just a delight.

When they got here I gave them a tour of our house. Being hip and cool, they grooved on the kitschiness. ;) Then we sat in the living room and had drinks (no alcohol, they don't drink) and Pixi joined us. They all got along as I knew they would. (Pixi has a little social anxiety and was nervous before they came. But it got her to clear her projects out of the living room, so yay.) After an hour or so, Rick started bringing up kink activities. He asked Pixi what kind of relationship she had with her bf. So she explained it was D/s. But when Rick started getting more specific about actual activities, I didn't want Pixi to perhaps be uncomfortable with that. So I suggested to Rick he and I and Glori could go play now, and he said yes.

Off to the bedroom we went. It was fantastic! Glori is fully into girl sex, in fact she told me she started out with just girls back in the day. She was awesome. Rick was telling her what to do to me. He was doing stuff to both of us. I wasn't required to do much but lie back and enjoy. Glori and I made out and did breast play. She gave me oral but I wasn't told to do that to her. Maybe someday soon, I hope! lol

I had asked Rick prior to our date if he'd like to do hot wax. He and Glori had tried it once but they didn't have the right kind of candles and she got burned. Mine are the right kind. The wax is different colors layered in a cute glass pitcher just right for pouring. I have 2, so I lit those before they came over. Rick waxed us both down and it was so fun.

After all that we went out to the living room for hydration and a rest. Pixi joined us again. More nice chatting for a half hour, then Rick started getting randy again. He hadn't fucked either of us, or cum, previously. So I said, let's go back to the bedroom? He invited Glori too, but she declined, so I got a nice one on one spank and fuck session. :) Glori and Pixi stayed in the living room for more nice chatting.

I was of course, apprehensive about this relationship shape, but so far so great. Pixi is also quite intrigued, and seems to be invited. But she's holding back to see how things develop for me, and I feel that's the right thing to do. She's envious of my fun though! She thinks Rick and Glori are nice. And hot! But I've been envious of her hot (and so happens, wealthy) bf/Master before, so oh well. I want to see how things unfold. Maybe get to meet the other 2 women. Etc.

Pixi is off to her bf's soon now. I get to rest and enjoy my memories of the evening and maybe get to talk to Kahlo again and see him soon.
 
I wrote the above yesterday morning but forgot to press submit lol.

So here's a recap of yesterday. Early afternoon Kahlo texted to say the friend found his car key. He'd hidden it "in a safe place," a little too safe! He finally remembered where it was.

So Kahlo wanted to come over right away that evening. He said, When can I come? 6? 5:30? 5? I said, 5:30, I had to get a few groceries and shower.

But I got done with my errands at 4:30 and texted him to come over anytime. He wrote right back, I'm on my way. :):):)

It was so wonderful to reconnect. We had a great 5 hours... we had sex 4 times. Wow. He was on fire. We also fit in watching a movie and eating a nice spread I made, chevre cheese (for me, he's vegetarian and tries to stay away from dairy), a baguette warmed up, peanut butter, carrots, sliced apples, some mushrooms, some strawberries. I'd also made some killer Ghirardelli chocolate chip cookies in the morning and he couldnt resist a couple!

I'd wrapped the bread in a dish towel to bring it downstairs warm, and Kahlo was so funny and endearing. He said, What's this? Oh it's so cute. He picked it up and snuggled it and said, It's our baby! :eek:

He said he wants to come over again today but I haven't heard from him yet. He is staying at his brother's place near here. He is moving to Springfield on Tuesday, sort of on a trial basis. He is moving in with another musician. He really wants to get a band going. He'll be further away, but doable. An hour 15 minutes. Instead of 20 minutes. sigh. But he is close with his brother and determined to visit him and me often back here!

So it never rains but it pours. New and old friends, great dates for me two days in a row!
 
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I’m so happy for you Mags!
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Thanks opal! I'm happy for me too! :):D;)

Kahlo came over the following evening as well, Sunday. He was here from 4:20 til about 9:30. I was expecting Pixi home from her bf's at 8, but he was tired and wanted a nap and had things to do later (he cooks all his meals for the week on Sunday, isn't that adorable?) and didn't need her help, so she came home at 4. So when Kahlo arrived, we 3 got high and chatted for a good hour. Kahlo was being so funny, he was great. I love his Mexican accent. He has to search for English words sometimes, even though he's lived here 30 years. I guess he spends a lot of time speaking Spanish with family. It's fun though, he has tons of American idioms, but also some gaps. I wish I spoke Spanish now, since he and Rick (from PR) are both native speakers! Not to mention my son in law is Dominican!

So we had some interesting intellectual but silly chat and laughs, and then Kahlo and I disappeared to the bedroom. He was still super horny, and I really got going too. I am so glad he missed me that much while he was away. <3 We have been trying all kinds of new kink activities. He's quite the sadist but in a fun way. Spork would understand.

Even though he is a Top and naturally sadistic/kinky, i found out he doesn't know much about BDSM... he's kind of going on instinct alone. I, of course, told him about Rick and Glori and their growing "house/leather family" arrangement. He had questions about that, as well as the whole Master/slave, Dom/sub, Top/bottom thing. I don't pretend to be a huge expert, and some of the distinctions are vague anyway, but I tried to answer his questions.

He's always asking me if he needs to use a condom "this time." I explained Sunday that it's partly for his own protection... especially since I have 2 new partners and they have the one sketchy partner. At least I think she's sketchy. So I don't trust her to be clean or to be practicing safer sex with her other male partner that isn't in the group. So Kahlo understood and said he appreciated it.

He was going to leave about 7:30. He said he wanted to stop by his mom's before he moved to Springfield. And he had a Bach concerto he was practicing on his Spanish guitar, that he wanted to polish up and do a youtube of. But he kept staying and staying, talking and flirting... So I sat down in a kitchen chair. He sat down. After a while I drifted to the living room couch. He followed. Then we got to talking about kinky stuff and we got all turned on, and we ended up going to the bedroom again! haha. Gotta love it.

I'm definitely in NRE with 3 people at once. What a difference a year makes. I know not to take NRE too seriously, but I feel I deserve some fun. And all the sex relaxes me and destresses me. I felt a little extra ache in my knee and neck from all the "head down ass up" of the 3 days in a row, but my Lyrica and corstisone helped, so it was OK!

Pixi and I are also trying to reconnect and be more sexual. We did fool around a little yesterday. And we went on a fun date, to this old fashioned candy store right nearby. We rarely go, because... it's too tempting! All the old penny candies, plus fudge and 10 kinds of licorice and every kind of delicious handmade chocolate and Jelly Bellies, and retro stuff like candy cigarettes, and it just goes on and on. But it's super fun to just look at all the wonder like a little kid. We got some goodies... tried to control ourselves lol.

Tonight I want us to take a break from our TV shows and have a fire in the living room for a change. It's cold and raw and typical November now after a super warm October. That should be nice and romantic.

I feel like I am coming down with a cold though. The one fly in the ointment. Go away, cold!
 
Well, it wasn't a cold... cough and runny nose went away by noon. I just got a new bottle of detergent, and washed and changed the sheets. I wonder if I was sensitive to it? I felt fine this morning.

Kahlo messaged me after I was asleep last night, to say he'll be around later this week if I want to get together. :) Yay!

Our friend K messaged around 4 yesterday to say she's had a rough few days and could she come by? We are always glad to see her, so she came with her 2 sweet doggies. I especially love one of them, Titus. He's so cuddly and goofy. We had our fire and made dinner and shared it with K. It was fun. Not romantic per se but that's OK.
 
The past week: My left knee pain started to return. I felt like I'd only gotten 60% relief from my shots last Wednesday. I went to the ortho on this Wednesday to get the shots in my right knee, and told him the left wasn't doing SO great. He said I can have another shot one month after the first. So I made an appointment for that. And he said if the cortisone doesn't work, there is a lubricant they can inject. Altho he did mention there can be trouble getting insurance to pay. Well, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. Meanwhile, the pain has increased more in that knee since Wednesday, not quite to its former levels, but I am not happy with it. I take 3 ibuprofen every few hours to dull the pain.

But my right knee feels perfect. And my back is feeling quite well too, in the past week! I am just going to go to chiro once next week and see how I feel.

So in love news, Pixi and I have been having more sex. I am being assertive about it, which is really what she needs. Good thing I feel healthy enough to stir up my Top side. Maybe if we keep the flow going, her Top can come out a little too.

Rick texts me every few days and is charming, interesting intellectually, funny and sexy. But I haven't hear from Glori about scheduling our next date! And I messaged her early in the week. :( I went ahead and asked her if she's really too busy between work and kids and Rick and the other 2 women, to be excited to see me again soon. I told her I was sad.

She did tell Pixi when she was here (and Rick and I were off getting busy) that she has social anxiety. So maybe that is at play.

Anyway! What happens, will happen with those 2.

But Kahlo remains attentive! He came back from his new location for the weekend. He was here last night for 5 hours. I kicked him out at 10 because his mom was expecting him to come eat food she made. He said she's up late, but he kept dawdling and cuddling and chatting, so I kicked him out, saying, go away so you can come back again! So he will be back tonight. :)

We used clothespins last night. Oof, challenging but fun. :) Then sex and aftercare cuddles. Then we had mixed berry pie I made, and watched the German version of the Garbo movie Anna Christie. When I'd recorded it I hadn't realised it was the German version! That movie was made in both English and German. It was Garbo's first non-Swedish speaking role, although she'd made a lot of Hollywood silent films in the late '20's.

Anna Christie is a 1930 talkie film made from a play by Eugene O'Neill. It is a classic. I remember I read it in a college course, and once saw the English version, but it was so long ago I forgot most of the plot. It is a moving and beautiful drama. It was thrilling to hear Garbo speaking German. I took German in middle and high school, and my older relatives and parents also spoke some German. So I was able to understand much of the German in the film, and repeated some of the words for Kahlo. He got a kick out of finding out I speak German. So now I feel a little less bad for having so little Spanish lol.

I love that Kahlo appreciates film the way I do! He was so enamored of this classic. He'd never seen Garbo before, and was struck by her beauty and heartfelt acting. I'd say he loves the old movies even more than Pixi does. Yay for friends and poly lovers! I've recorded a few more of Garbo's films. Maybe we will watch another tonight.

One last thing. Pixi is at her Master's for a long weekend. She left yesterday around 5:30 PM. He is taking the week off of work. So she is staying until Tuesday morning! Then his family will be visiting for the Thanksgiving holiday stretch. But I am happy she gets to spend so much time with him. This is a first. I bet she's having fun. Going to Home Depot, decorating, etc.

And I am glad I get to see Kahlo while she's away. (Pixi's Master only lives 10 minutes from us, so she could pop home to say hi, get something, or in case I had an emergency or something. It's so convenient!) I am fine on my own, I like it, and it's very centering for me, but it's nice to break my me-time up with such a pleasant partner.

At one point in the movie, Garbo is saying something about what it is like to love, and Kahlo took my hand and pressed it.
 
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