Hello. This will be my first post. I’m Daisy!
So I’m in a bit of a tough spot.
I have been with partner A for 6 years now and we are basically married (will likely be really married soon). We live together and share finances. We don’t make a lot of money, but have always been happy because we are frugal. I’d say between the two of us, we make about 40k a year combined.
I have been with partner B for about 2 years now. They spend a lot of time at our house and the goal will one day (I’m hoping) be to Get married and all live together.
“Problem” is... partner B makes about 60k a year By themselves and is in track to up that to about $65k pretty soon. Partner B LOVES to travel and book weekend or week long trips every now and then, often inviting me along. Sometimes to Europe or Latin America. And I love going! We just stayed at a very nice cabin resort for the weekend and it was perfect.
However, they never really invite partner A along and this makes me feel a bit guilty. I know partner A would like to go on trips every now and then and unwind, but we just can’t afford it.
I don’t expect partner B to pay for partner A, but I often feel guilty or that it’s unfair of me to have all these nice vacations with B, while A and I can’t afford one. I can sometimes tell partner A is a bit envious.
How do you handle such a large income disparity while keeping both partners happy? Partner A mentioned to me yesterday that they think my partnership with partner B is so glamorous and cool and their life with me is boring in comparison. That made me feel bad. But I still do enjoy being treated to these trips every now and then. I’d love to travel even more if I could afford it.
I feel bad, but whenever I encourage partner A to go back to school, or look for more steady work, they always have an excuse and in truth, don’t really know the meaning of working hard. ( I am in school for finance so will be making around the same as partner B within a couple years).
B works very hard for their money and loves to spend and enjoy it. I just hate feeling so guilty for enjoying it with them and not including partner A.
I do try and have affordable and special events with A as well. Well do a picnic in the park, or have a shopping day, Go camping for a couple days or have a night out. I fear it isn’t enough to keep A satisfied and happy by comparison.
Any advice?
So I’m in a bit of a tough spot.
I have been with partner A for 6 years now and we are basically married (will likely be really married soon). We live together and share finances. We don’t make a lot of money, but have always been happy because we are frugal. I’d say between the two of us, we make about 40k a year combined.
I have been with partner B for about 2 years now. They spend a lot of time at our house and the goal will one day (I’m hoping) be to Get married and all live together.
“Problem” is... partner B makes about 60k a year By themselves and is in track to up that to about $65k pretty soon. Partner B LOVES to travel and book weekend or week long trips every now and then, often inviting me along. Sometimes to Europe or Latin America. And I love going! We just stayed at a very nice cabin resort for the weekend and it was perfect.
However, they never really invite partner A along and this makes me feel a bit guilty. I know partner A would like to go on trips every now and then and unwind, but we just can’t afford it.
I don’t expect partner B to pay for partner A, but I often feel guilty or that it’s unfair of me to have all these nice vacations with B, while A and I can’t afford one. I can sometimes tell partner A is a bit envious.
How do you handle such a large income disparity while keeping both partners happy? Partner A mentioned to me yesterday that they think my partnership with partner B is so glamorous and cool and their life with me is boring in comparison. That made me feel bad. But I still do enjoy being treated to these trips every now and then. I’d love to travel even more if I could afford it.
I feel bad, but whenever I encourage partner A to go back to school, or look for more steady work, they always have an excuse and in truth, don’t really know the meaning of working hard. ( I am in school for finance so will be making around the same as partner B within a couple years).
B works very hard for their money and loves to spend and enjoy it. I just hate feeling so guilty for enjoying it with them and not including partner A.
I do try and have affordable and special events with A as well. Well do a picnic in the park, or have a shopping day, Go camping for a couple days or have a night out. I fear it isn’t enough to keep A satisfied and happy by comparison.
Any advice?
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