Hi! Long story short, my husband and I have been trying to deal with my being poly for almost 3 years now. We have been married for 15+ years, we have 2 kids and no desire to divorce.
His ability to deal with my involvement with another person comes and goes. He’s basically decided that the only poly “relationship” he’s comfortable with is a virtual one. I went on an actual date with a real life person, (yay!!!) only to have the kiss be not great and my husband say he couldn’t handle anymore.
My husband is fine with me sexting, sharing pics, ect but no real life encounters. I think the only reason he’s fine is because he knows it turns me on and then what else am I to do but have sex with him.
Hubs wants one date and sexting to be enough for the rest of our lives. I’m just so angry and frustrated. He sees poly as a necrosis in our relationship. I see it as magical, strengthening and natural. He sees it as a problem that need to be gotten over. His insecurities through out the years of our relationship are all he can see whenever we’ve tried to open up. I love him and have been open and honest about my feelings. I just want things to be different. He just wants to blame polyamory, me and his ex girlfriends for his pain.
Thanks for letting me vent. I just needed a place to put some of my thoughts.
His ability to deal with my involvement with another person comes and goes. He’s basically decided that the only poly “relationship” he’s comfortable with is a virtual one. I went on an actual date with a real life person, (yay!!!) only to have the kiss be not great and my husband say he couldn’t handle anymore.
My husband is fine with me sexting, sharing pics, ect but no real life encounters. I think the only reason he’s fine is because he knows it turns me on and then what else am I to do but have sex with him.
Hubs wants one date and sexting to be enough for the rest of our lives. I’m just so angry and frustrated. He sees poly as a necrosis in our relationship. I see it as magical, strengthening and natural. He sees it as a problem that need to be gotten over. His insecurities through out the years of our relationship are all he can see whenever we’ve tried to open up. I love him and have been open and honest about my feelings. I just want things to be different. He just wants to blame polyamory, me and his ex girlfriends for his pain.
Thanks for letting me vent. I just needed a place to put some of my thoughts.