MtnPolyLoversX2
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so I’m just guessing like a lot of you singles / couples, we use Dating apps . Obviously not the best way to meet likeminded people (plenty of unicorn hunters) but with our jobs and professional lives it just is a matter of time and convenience
We have a shared profile, well as she has her own and I have mine . Our couples profile is very clear that we are POLY AND NOT SWINGERS .
Her profile is very clear that she is Openly Bisexual and Polyamarous (you can only guess the messages she gets)
And mine…. I might catch hell for this ….
Because of limited drop down options , and trial and error of figuring out a lot of women have their minds already made up when they see “in relationship & Poly” . Well as some positive response when the cat is out of the bag . My profile says Single
Now I have had responses when the few single women have relied and carried on a conversation that hasn’t gone ghost in a day or a few messages; if they are one of the rare few that actually what to get to know someone (buy a lottery ticket) and I let the cat out of the bag. (Again buy 2 lottery tickets) if she chooses to meet for a date . I let the cat out of the bag it is confirmed (usually a nice response)
“wow I didn’t know and if you told me earlier I would of never spent time chatting with you” but in the same conversations days or week prior to meeting it’s “their are no nice respectful guys” but you tell me you wouldn’t waste your time with me if you made a judgment call about my character.
The date goes on, she has lots of questions about poly, how long I’ve been this way and so on but of course as you might guess it ends with “good luck and hope you find what you’re looking for”
Again these dates are EXTREMELY RARE because most conversations don’t even get that far before the next offer come along or whatever the case and if I’m going to invest my time into someone I would expect a general respect . But I digress
What’s your opinion on my approach of “leaving out information” prior … I welcome all opinions in my long winded post
We have a shared profile, well as she has her own and I have mine . Our couples profile is very clear that we are POLY AND NOT SWINGERS .
Her profile is very clear that she is Openly Bisexual and Polyamarous (you can only guess the messages she gets)
And mine…. I might catch hell for this ….
Because of limited drop down options , and trial and error of figuring out a lot of women have their minds already made up when they see “in relationship & Poly” . Well as some positive response when the cat is out of the bag . My profile says Single
Now I have had responses when the few single women have relied and carried on a conversation that hasn’t gone ghost in a day or a few messages; if they are one of the rare few that actually what to get to know someone (buy a lottery ticket) and I let the cat out of the bag. (Again buy 2 lottery tickets) if she chooses to meet for a date . I let the cat out of the bag it is confirmed (usually a nice response)
“wow I didn’t know and if you told me earlier I would of never spent time chatting with you” but in the same conversations days or week prior to meeting it’s “their are no nice respectful guys” but you tell me you wouldn’t waste your time with me if you made a judgment call about my character.
The date goes on, she has lots of questions about poly, how long I’ve been this way and so on but of course as you might guess it ends with “good luck and hope you find what you’re looking for”
Again these dates are EXTREMELY RARE because most conversations don’t even get that far before the next offer come along or whatever the case and if I’m going to invest my time into someone I would expect a general respect . But I digress
What’s your opinion on my approach of “leaving out information” prior … I welcome all opinions in my long winded post