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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    Born This Way I was a square peg born in a round hole. I was raised in a conservative home-schooled Christian society, yet I was always more open-minded than my friends and even their parents. Sometime in my mid-teens I sat on the porch and did a little thought experiment. I had a big crush on...
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    Re-introductions

    I felt a re-introduction was in order since I'm an "us" now... just got married! Also, my life is a lot less rollercoastery, so I'm not left wondering if I'm going to live my life mono or poly anymore. I considered myself polyflexible. Although I leaned heavily poly, I always seemed to fall for...
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    Ladies and gentlemen, I give you....

    Thanks for the links! I've been to a few but I have yet to visit most of those. I did Google to find some local groups but so far have only found one that meets on Sundays when I'm at work :-/ I'll keep at it though! Thank you so much for the guidance and resources :D
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    Do you ever really let go of past loves?

    I like your take on it HappilyFallenAngel :o I think the reason I think of it as more of a poly thing is because mono would say you can love only one at a time so you should get over your feelings before moving on, whereas in poly we're accustomed to loving more than one at a time so I feel...
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    Do you ever really let go of past loves?

    tenK, that makes a lot of sense. Also, what you said made me realize that... I think the reason I've had such a hard time moving past this is because my ex did that thing where she completely cut off communication with me, and so aside from the romantic aspect I'm missing her presence in my life...
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    Ladies and gentlemen, I give you....

    [I joined a while ago, but haven't been active, and I never actually made an intro. Better late than never!] Hello you beautiful wonderful people!!! I'm Matt. I'm 25, straight, Caucasian male, INTP, hopeless romantic, somewhat demisexual, and until recently I identified as being polyflexible...
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    Debating whether to identify as exclusively poly

    Welcome! I'm also new-ish to the forum :D You sound so much like myself, not just in what position you're in and your stance, but the way you think and speak too. Are you an INTP by chance? Anyway... I've considered myself poly yet still attempted mono relationships. I feel like I'm primarily...
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    Do you ever really let go of past loves?

    [correct me if I'm wrong, about anything, which I probably am, but that's why I'm here] A concept I've been personally struggling with lately is that in theory, wouldn't being polyamorous mean you could move on to a new love while still holding onto a past one? Without going into egregious...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    I was raised conservatively, but I came up with the idea all on my own in high school when I had crushes on two girls. I started thinking, wouldn't it be possible to have a romantic relationship with both of them simultaneously? What if one of them has a boyfriend, or another guy likes them...
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    Lone Heart in the Lone Star State

    Young man in San Antonio, Texas seeking friends. I don't know any polyamorous individuals here. There's a group that meets on Sundays but I work every Sunday. I managed to go once and it was a good group although small and not anyone I connected with outside of the fact that we were all...
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    in love with a woman who wants me to herself

    I don't wish to convert her. She believes in polyhusbandry, where she wouldn't mind taking on another partner if the first one wasn't meeting her needs, but she still wouldn't want to share either one with anyone else. She admits it's a double standard, and says that I meet all her needs so she...
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    in love with a woman who wants me to herself

    Thank you everyone. As I mentioned, I feel that breaking up with her is the right thing to do. It wouldn't be the first time I've had to break up with someone because of it being the right thing... being poly really sucks sometimes :-( It's just that we do love each other very much, and she...
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    in love with a woman who wants me to herself

    I'm a young poly male who's fallen in love with an older mono woman who's been great to me. She fell for me knowing that I'm poly, I guess she thought I'd change. She's asked before if I could be monogamous to her and I said I don't believe so and that I don't want to be. Yet she still said...
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    Single straight guy in San Antonio, TX

    I'm a cute, scruffy, thin, white, 24 year old straight male. I recently became single after my first attempt at a poly relationship failed :-/ On top of that, I'll be leaving for school at University of North Texas for fall 2014, so I don't want to fall in love just to have to move away. But I...
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    Texas Tordano

    getting better I apologize for the bump. As you stated, I too want to keep up dialog in this thread, just have been busy lately. I'm either working, sleeping, on Skype with Girl A or spending time with Girl B. I'm actually typing this up during downtime at work. Since the last post things have...
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