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Sorry for the delayed response. Please read FieryFlames's summary above. Yes, they are two separate grandmothers. Her mother's mom and father's mom. Her grandmother on her father's didn't know how to interact with her because she only had boys and apparently used to tell her that she would...

It is absolutely something worth noting. The use of "ground rules" was more for the guy than for Nukes. We all three discussed what we were and weren't okay with if she wanted to continue seeing him. However, on that note... Last night Nukes and I talked again and she said that she actually...

I do believe that she had no intent when we talked; however, as far as when she went over... I am not sure what to think. There have been three total versions of the story: 2 stated by her, 1 not disputed. She first said that she had decided that our triad was essentially over because she...

SPORK!!! I've (We've) missed talking with you! :) Indeed, I do recognize that. When she told me about the guy telling her that he was interested, she was really afraid. In past relationships, something like that has always turned into a big fight because the other person essentially blames...

This is exactly how FF felt and quite frankly is where she is saying that she isn't sure that she can forgive but is willing to try. I'm sure that FF will jump into this conversation shortly, but for the time being let me offer a brief elaboration of how she is feeling about this. FF is...

BlueShoes, I have always been a fan of your input, have loved to read your responses on other threads, and I am very appreciative for it now. Just... Please don't put words in my mouth that I didn't say. I am not in anyway trying to say that "Nukes is the mayer of Crazy Town." She has...

No, the insecurities themselves are certainly important. In summary, I took issue with a fantasy firefighter boyfriend that she had made up at work to keep some of the people she works with off of the scent. When approached by the guy, she advised him that she had never thought of him that way...

tenK, Thank you for your reply. Yes, we've been together six months and we decided at the beginning to be polyfidelitous. We did that because all three of us weren't interested in considering anyone else at the time and wanted to try to establish our triad before adding additional...

Hello to everybody! It has been a little while since I was last active on here but I felt like I needed to ask for some advice and figured this would be the place. The short and skinny is that FF and I (please see signature for full names) just found out that Nukes cheated on us this past...

Hello Narball! From what I have gathered there are not many triads on this forum and so I just wanted to send a hello. My wife (FieryFlames) and I (PhysicsIsPants) would be happy to chat if you'd like. Just in case you're interested in chatting, I've included links to our introductions so...

Hello Poohbear! I just wanted to resonate with FieryFlames and say that we'd both be happy to talk if you'd like to. ^_^

It seems like an obvious thing to say, but rebuilding trust is going to take time and commitment from all involved parties. I am worried that what you are planning will result in more of a big-brother complex than a rebuilding of trust. I understand that you are looking for a way to verify...

IMHO, I feel that it is appropriate to refer to this as cheating. As a personal comment, I am glad that you both are no longer involved in what sounds like an emotionally manipulative and abusive relationship. Good on both of you for getting out of that kind of situation.

I am sorry for what you are going through and can empathize with the situation you are in. I hope that Surfer will start to come out of his introverted period and that the break in communication can be reconnected soon.

I think that you need to give yourself time to really mull this over. Your concerns about being replaced or forgotten are valid concerns and you should not feel bad for having them. From my summation, what you are battling with is the question of what do you bring to the table if he starts to...

Hello! My wife (FieryFlames) and I are both on the Ace spectrum as well. (Links to our Introductions: PIP Intro and FF Intro) We are new to both the forum and poly; however, this forum seems to be a great resource and is full of many helpful individuals. Is there anyone in y'alls life that...

I agree with Dagferi that you cannot help your wife with her feelings; however, you can check in with her to make sure that there isn't something you can do which will make her feel better. Maybe the problem isn't that you're poly but that your wife doesn't feel like she is being given the what...

You've noted this before in some of your replies to me, but your situation sounds somewhat similar to what ours was before my wife (FieryFlames, FF), our best friend (I'll call her Nukes...), and I started dating. Nukes had spoken to FF about poly in general at one point and told us that she...

Indeed, both FF and I feel very lucky. We've known her for three years, but for a little under the past two it has kind of been the three of us running around and taking on the world. Between weekend getaways to renaissance festivals, up to week long sleep overs to binge-watch Netflix or play...

I agree with BlueShoes. I am not saying that you shouldn't bother, but I think that you need to take time mull this over thoroughly and really think about what you want. Since you have just ended it and moved out, now is a perfect time for you to be introspective. IMHO, I do not think that...