Jeansandsneakers
Member
This is in my ‘about me’ but I think it’s more appropriate here?
A couple of years ago I read the Ethical Slut and felt that I finally found something that I could identify with. I had my husband read it and he said he agreed with the theory behind it. Nothing much more happened until I told my husband late last year that I’d met someone online that I’d like to have coffee with. He fell apart and nothing progressed with that coffee date.
After a couple of years looking into polyamory, I’m now at a stage where I identify with being polyamorous but am unable to do anything about it without possibly losing my husband.
We went and saw a psychologist for marriage counselling, where I spoke about the shame I feel. She asked me some questions about my upbringing and now im going through trauma counselling. She even said I may come out of it realising I’m happy with monogamy. In my second session I mentioned that saying this in front of my husband has given him false hope and she agreed, but that’s not very helpful.
I find myself withdrawing from friends because I don’t really have any who can understand what I’m going through. It’s a lonely existence and I’m hoping in coming here that I might find some kind of comfort getting to know people who I can relate with.
J
A couple of years ago I read the Ethical Slut and felt that I finally found something that I could identify with. I had my husband read it and he said he agreed with the theory behind it. Nothing much more happened until I told my husband late last year that I’d met someone online that I’d like to have coffee with. He fell apart and nothing progressed with that coffee date.
After a couple of years looking into polyamory, I’m now at a stage where I identify with being polyamorous but am unable to do anything about it without possibly losing my husband.
We went and saw a psychologist for marriage counselling, where I spoke about the shame I feel. She asked me some questions about my upbringing and now im going through trauma counselling. She even said I may come out of it realising I’m happy with monogamy. In my second session I mentioned that saying this in front of my husband has given him false hope and she agreed, but that’s not very helpful.
I find myself withdrawing from friends because I don’t really have any who can understand what I’m going through. It’s a lonely existence and I’m hoping in coming here that I might find some kind of comfort getting to know people who I can relate with.
J