One major realization I've had is that all of my monogamous relationships have ultimately failed. I've come to understand that I am polyamorous and am now looking for a like-minded women who shares this perspective. To be clear, while I am not monogamous, I am also not promiscuous.
Monogamy made me feel as if I were sleepwalking through life, like a zombie, and I don't want to continue living that way. Embracing polyamory feels more authentic and fulfilling for me.
I see you're brand new to poly, and you're seeking "2Fs." Poly doesn't quite work that way. It's best to date individuals as individuals. That is, start dating. It could take a while to find even one good woman. Beware of initial infatuation, or, as we call it, new relationship energy (NRE). That's just a crush, and hormones. It can take a year, or more likely two, to get to know a person for real and see if you're long-term compatible.
Meanwhile, make sure any woman you date is at least poly-friendly, if not poly herself. Keep yourself on the dating market and maybe eventually another Ms Right will come along. It can take YEARS to find the right people that you click with, that you are compatible with long-term. Poly relationships can end, just like mono ones can.
That said, it's good to be true to yourself, that you feel able to love more than one and believe you can manage multiple relationships. Please see our resource list for books, articles and a podcast about how to successfully practice polyamory. I'd start with the book Opening Up.
Greetings Sulram20s,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
You have come to an important realization about yourself and your life ... and I say kudos for that. I hope you find the right person/s for you, (a) person/s who also identify as polyamorous and are a good match for you. Take some time to explore the various threads/boards here, and let us know if you have any questions.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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