It sounds like you and she have some disagreement about what constitutes fair. Did she agree previously to no contact, or is it something you need that she has not yet agreed to?
I'm a very giving person, part of why I'm so frustrated with myself.
Back when I thought they were just inappropriately close friends I agreed to allow him some storage space on my property
i don't know. she thinks i'm not treating her fairly for "giving up" (in her mind) her affair partner, I'm ASTOUNDED that she doesn't understand what no contact means and how i need that.
We just got in a argument over me trying to express how this makes me feel.
I feel like she will not let me express my hurt with out telling me that I am attacking her, then she breaks down and goes into extreme emotional state; and does things that make me wonder if she's possessed.
However I think HAC needs to practice the way that he shares how he feels...we can go into that more later.
I do suffer from depression and anxiety and social anxiety. I am so spent emotionally over all of this that I have had several emotional breakdowns lately where I literally cannot stand up and cry hysterically...those are what he calls me being possessed...when this happens he either stands there looking at my like I am insane or walks away....
To perceive a person as possibly possessed when that person is breaks emotionally it completely heartless in my opinion.
If anyone thinks that it would be helpful for me to share my side on all of this, let me know. I didn't even get a chance to discuss how HAC was feeling about Poly as he only wrote here and refused to talk to me about it at all in real life....so many things about this situation are not presented here on this forum...
At the very least some explanation should be given
I still drift off in hurt thought at times, but I'm very happy with where we are starting our new relationship & the start of rebuilding trust for both of us.
I know she is struggling too, but I think things are starting out very well.
I'm glad father's day went well. I hope you both continue to talk, repair, and figure out what you want to do next.