Coming out as polyamorous was very hard. I got to know a few women and told them I wanted a monogamous relationship. It was during a time when I thought I was monogamous. After realizing I was polyamorous, I told them about it. They didn't know how to react. They were shocked. Some were passive aggressive and tried to hide their pain. Others said "there's no love in polyamory." Ultimately, they were all deeply hurt that I would never be exclusively theirs. I felt really bad seeing them hurt, but they deserved the truth.