Curious-- hot-wifing or polyamory?

dck109 said:
Greetings all! I am a straight male and married for 31 years. I've recently let my wife know that I'm interested in a stag/hw relationship. She's not at all into it. That's okay. Now that the cat is out of the bag, I am interested in meeting like-minded people to talk to about the lifestyle. Maybe someday my wife might want to give it a try.
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Hello. Just to inform you, this is a discussion forum for polyamory, which is defined as having multiple adult romantic relationships with more than one person, with the joyful informed consent of all involved.

Hot-wifing (stag/vixen, etc.) is about sexual physical relationships, not about growing to love more than one person. Like swinging, the emotional connection is not the main intent.

Also, we are not here to help you talk your wife into doing something she is not at all interested in or eager to try. You won't find "like-minded" people here to talk about this "lifestyle." I suggest you try Fetlife, or swinger's websites.
 
Magdlyn said:
Hot-wifing (stag/vixen, etc.) is about sexual physical relationships, not about growing to love more than one person. Like swinging, the emotional connection is not the main intent.
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Thanks @Magdlyn for defining "hw." I then had to Google hot-wifing. Then I had to Google the difference between HW and cuckold.
 
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KND said:
Thanks @Magdlyn for defining "hw." I then had to Google hot-wifing. Then I had to Google the difference between HW and cuckold.
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lol I’m glad I’m not the only one, and I actually knew the terms! just not the abbreviations.

Yeh, hi! I don’t think we’re the droids you’re looking for, but feel free to look around. Maybe we’re actually exactly who you’re looking for *you just don’t know it yet*
 
dck109 said:
Ok. Maybe i am in the wrong place.

It is NOT my intention to have anybody "help me convince my wife" to do anything. I don't want her to do anything she's not comfortable with.

In addition, the Stag/Hot Wife dynamic is not necessarily about "swinging". If my wife ever decided to participate, we would find ONE person for her that she would grow to love. Period.
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Yeah, I did not say that hot-wifing was swinging. I just said, as with swinging, it's more about sport sex than deeply emotional connections.

If you want her to find a bf to "deeply love," imo, this wouldn't be hot-wifing. That's something to consider. Generally hot-wifing is for erotic pleasure, not for actual romance and caring, at least in my experience. We can certainly chat about the differences. :)
dck109 said:
But thanks for all the judgement.
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;)(y)
 
dck109 said:
How do I delete my account? Or will I get judged for that too?
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We are a no delete site. Even moderators can't delete their own accounts.
 
Greetings dck109,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sorry you have had a bad experience with Polyamory.com so far. I won't blame you if you don't return, but I hope you'll return anyway. Give it a second go, YKWIM? Anyway I hope things work out well for you and your wife.

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Kevin T., "official greeter"

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