Few people around?

Magdlyn said:
It's really fun to go back to the older threads on the Relationships forum, or go to the Golden Nuggets threads, and see how the culture here has changed. There were certain recommendations made constantly then that we'd never give now. I reorganized the archived Golden Nuggets threads earlier this year, and I found some of them a bit cringe-worthy. (Most of the advice is excellent, however.)

Redpepper's poly V crashed and burned in a really spectacular way. So did the V of Loving Radiance. They always had uneasy dynamics. They thought KTP would somehow save the day. But it really didn't.
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Exactly. Some advice given frequently today may be cringeworthy in another 10 years. 🙃 Fun! 🙃
 
Tinwen said:
Exactly. Some advice given frequently today may be cringeworthy in another 10 years. 🙃 Fun! 🙃
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Anyway, I think my point has been made about there being no monolithic "dominant line of thinking," other than perhaps the old "communicate, communicate, communicate," and "beware of NRE making you crazy." And that advice is good for any relationship, monoamorous ones included.

Back 15 years ago, Redpepper was constantly harping on the metamours meeting being a panacea and a way to almost guarantee a polyamorous network would be smooth and agreeable. She and others were also often telling new members to invite their partners to come here and read their thread and possibly post their side. That often backfired!
 
Yeah, while today the narrative is, 'You don't have to ever meet your metamour. Parallel is okay.' My friend was seriously annoyed with that. She pointed out that some people just do need to meet metamours in order to get comfortable. (Maybe Redpepper was that way. Who knows?)

As for reading each other's threads... yeah, I can imagine. :)
 
Good news, Kynde updated her blog, and Juan and Laminar Flow have been around.

I miss Bobbi, though.
 
Tinwen said:
Is it just my impression, or are there way less regular posters than there used to be? And correspondingly less diverse opinions? People don't stick around...
I wonder if it could be helped somehow.
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Yeah, this is definitely less active then I was hoping for as it’s nearly impossible to find real, sincere advice and insights on this topic elsewhere, or at least I am not looking in the right places.
 
Just discovered the site and am frankly enamored with the idea of such a friendly community on an old-school forum such as this!

Let’s get it this party started up again!

Also, hiiiii /wave
 
quirkyandkind said:
Yeah, this is definitely less active then I was hoping for, as it’s nearly impossible to find real, sincere advice and insights on this topic elsewhere, or at least I am not looking in the right places.
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We have become less active because of the rise of reddit, but we have the advantage of easily searchable archives going back to 2009. Check out the Golden Nuggets section, or choose pages of threads from the Poly Relationships Corner. There are 424 pages in that section of 20 threads each. At any time, we have hundreds of people here just reading these older threads. It's truly a treasure trove of experiences and education!
 
I poke my nose back in every many months or so. It’s good to see familiar names and new ones. I have grieved Vinsanity, as I’m sure he’d have been here along the way if he could.

So many good voices, and yes, evolving perspectives. Hi from slowland. 👋
 
People are indeed using Facebook and Meet-up more these days. As soon as I find out the damage to my PC I might be able to help, but even I've noticed a lot of disappearing profiles. Who owns this forum?
 
Tenebris Vox said:
People are indeed using Facebook and meet up more these days. As soon as I find out the damage to my PC I might be able to help, but even I've noticed a lot of disappearing profiles. Who owns this forum?
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This forum is owned by a largely anonymous benefactor. He hasn't been present on the site for a long time. But he kindly keeps paying the bills and keeps us ad free

As for the "disappearing profiles" - the mod team daily clean up newly created spam profiles (we can't delete anything old). Spam tends to come in two forms... company/business profiles that are obviously generated by a human as they have gotten past our spam filters but likely because a trusting company has paid a business for SEO, and that SEO business is creating profiles all over the web. And then there are the obvious scammer profiles or ones that blatantly break our guidelines by posting x-rated content in disallowed parts of the forum, including profile pictures.

I hope this clarifies things.
 
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