mountaingirl
Active member
Hello!
I have to drive to Salt Lake to get my scuba certification, and was really wanting my bf to accompany me (it's an 8 hour drive each way, I'll be diving both days I have to drive so I'll be pretty tired). J (husband) is working, but P (bf) conveniently has off.
Does anyone have experience with negotiating a first time solo trip with a new(ish) partner? I feel weird even saying 'negotiating' because we don't practice the whole vetoing/hierarchy thing and I'm not asking for permission, but I'm trying to bring this up mindfully and prepare for any resulting jealousy. Really just hoping P can help me out in a way that any friend would, but we haven't gone on a solo trip together since poly started so I'm nervous to bring it up.
I have to drive to Salt Lake to get my scuba certification, and was really wanting my bf to accompany me (it's an 8 hour drive each way, I'll be diving both days I have to drive so I'll be pretty tired). J (husband) is working, but P (bf) conveniently has off.
Does anyone have experience with negotiating a first time solo trip with a new(ish) partner? I feel weird even saying 'negotiating' because we don't practice the whole vetoing/hierarchy thing and I'm not asking for permission, but I'm trying to bring this up mindfully and prepare for any resulting jealousy. Really just hoping P can help me out in a way that any friend would, but we haven't gone on a solo trip together since poly started so I'm nervous to bring it up.