Bluebird
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I had some good conversation with PunkRock last night, coming home from the game store. Apparently his married friend who is disapproving of poly is not married. Her husband passed last December - the day I met PunkRock, he was coming back from the funeral. When I figured that out, lots of stuff clicked for me. I knew her husband's name, and the name of the guy that died were the same, but I didn't recognize they were the same person. So she is still in a lot of grief, I think. I know I would be.
Anyway, she was perfectly nice to me at dinner last night. I think there were 13 people from the game store at the restaurant, so we were a big group. PunkRock said he had been concerned about how our energy would be - between her and I. That surprised me, because I don't have any anamosity toward her just because she disapproves of poly. She is extremely catholic and now knowing that she is still grieving from a very personal loss, I understand why she would worry about PunkRock being involved with a poly relationship.
I told PunkRock that she's nice, personally. My only issue is if she is talking things in his ear about how this will never work out, or that I will eventually leave him. Negativity is something I would rather he avoid. However, that is his choice to make. *shrugs*
I have been feeling closer and closer to PunkRock the last few days. There is just this energy between us that is amazing. I feel as if he is a soulmate. We just fit together. He told me last night he feels the same. He said he has thought about dating this friend in the past, but he decided early on it wouldn't work, ever. He isn't religious at all, right off the bat, but also that she can't talk crap with him. She's just too sweet, he said. He said our dynamic is perfect in that our sense of humor is the same and we are irreverent with EVERYTHING. He's right about that, lol.
I told him I wasn't threatened by this woman at all, ever. He told me who she was when he introduced us, how she fit into his life, and I believed him. So I haven't lost any sleep about him dating her, etc. My hesitation about being around her is the disapproval she has for me, for loving PunkRock. I will never apologize for being poly or for wanting to spend my life with such an amazing man.
Anyway, she was perfectly nice to me at dinner last night. I think there were 13 people from the game store at the restaurant, so we were a big group. PunkRock said he had been concerned about how our energy would be - between her and I. That surprised me, because I don't have any anamosity toward her just because she disapproves of poly. She is extremely catholic and now knowing that she is still grieving from a very personal loss, I understand why she would worry about PunkRock being involved with a poly relationship.
I told PunkRock that she's nice, personally. My only issue is if she is talking things in his ear about how this will never work out, or that I will eventually leave him. Negativity is something I would rather he avoid. However, that is his choice to make. *shrugs*
I have been feeling closer and closer to PunkRock the last few days. There is just this energy between us that is amazing. I feel as if he is a soulmate. We just fit together. He told me last night he feels the same. He said he has thought about dating this friend in the past, but he decided early on it wouldn't work, ever. He isn't religious at all, right off the bat, but also that she can't talk crap with him. She's just too sweet, he said. He said our dynamic is perfect in that our sense of humor is the same and we are irreverent with EVERYTHING. He's right about that, lol.
I told him I wasn't threatened by this woman at all, ever. He told me who she was when he introduced us, how she fit into his life, and I believed him. So I haven't lost any sleep about him dating her, etc. My hesitation about being around her is the disapproval she has for me, for loving PunkRock. I will never apologize for being poly or for wanting to spend my life with such an amazing man.