I'm actually looking at it from a self-interested perspective - Will ruining her mood cause more pain and suffering for us both in the following week? And will it make my own process of developing sexual relationships messier, down the line? As far as I can tell, the answer is "yes". I can't see any good reason to ruin her mood, even from a self-interested perspective.that isn’t even in question I was referring to a specific situation.
I DIDNT SEE ARC the type to have a 3 am meltdown or any really meltdown and I wholeheartedly agree thise aren’t going to be very productive in the grand scheme. However being afraid to express a thought or feeling because you dont want to ruin her mood is equally silly IMO.
GOOD ADVICE. However maybe the foundation is the key …it may not matter in the least how he acts and performs as we’ve seen here Hundreds of times. I’m not advocating a meltdown nor would anyone I just don’t think sharing his truth at whatever moment he might want to do that should take a backseat to her endorphin high. Everyone is and adult here and has to recognize the costs of this kind of stuff.