Hello,
Me: 39 yr old Male, straightish (who knows, everything seems possible these days)
Wife: 40yr old female, straitish
My Wife and I have been married for 13 yrs and recently had a 3 some with a woman we both very much enjoyed. The idea of polyamory or open relationship was not new, and after some thought we have decided to give it a try officially.
Its hard! and Fun! and weird! and not weird! I have been shocked by range of emotions felt, but also very encouraged by the incredible growth in communication, love, and trust, which I already thought was abnormally strong.
The beginning has been a bit surprising for me. My wife decided to look into online flirting during covid, and has found a few people she would now like to meet. I have found myself a bit more jealous than expected, but Im eager to work through the emotions and learn. Its all part of the experience, just gathering as many tools as I can to make the journey go as smooth as possible.
this site has been helpful, so I figured I'd join and say hello and Thank You.
Lastly, I am pretty surprised at the lack of mention of the Spike Jones film "Her" in poly stuff i have read so far. I think this film was what really made me understand the idea that love is not finite, and that loving more than my partner, or her loving others, does not subtract from our love, but can in fact enhance it.
so a quote from "Her" that helped my brain click over
Samantha : The heart is not like a box that gets filled up; it expands in size the more you love. I'm different from you. This doesn't make me love you any less. It actually makes me love you more.
Me: 39 yr old Male, straightish (who knows, everything seems possible these days)
Wife: 40yr old female, straitish
My Wife and I have been married for 13 yrs and recently had a 3 some with a woman we both very much enjoyed. The idea of polyamory or open relationship was not new, and after some thought we have decided to give it a try officially.
Its hard! and Fun! and weird! and not weird! I have been shocked by range of emotions felt, but also very encouraged by the incredible growth in communication, love, and trust, which I already thought was abnormally strong.
The beginning has been a bit surprising for me. My wife decided to look into online flirting during covid, and has found a few people she would now like to meet. I have found myself a bit more jealous than expected, but Im eager to work through the emotions and learn. Its all part of the experience, just gathering as many tools as I can to make the journey go as smooth as possible.
this site has been helpful, so I figured I'd join and say hello and Thank You.
Lastly, I am pretty surprised at the lack of mention of the Spike Jones film "Her" in poly stuff i have read so far. I think this film was what really made me understand the idea that love is not finite, and that loving more than my partner, or her loving others, does not subtract from our love, but can in fact enhance it.
so a quote from "Her" that helped my brain click over
Samantha : The heart is not like a box that gets filled up; it expands in size the more you love. I'm different from you. This doesn't make me love you any less. It actually makes me love you more.