Sungoesdown123
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Hi, I am here because I would like to hear your thoughts.
My bf and I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. Before we became official, we had already discussed this. He was clear that he wants a polyamorous relationship, maybe not now but in the future. I also told him that it's not my thing, now and likely even in the future. We still proceeded w our relationship and agreed that "we'll just see how far this will take us".
Our relationship has been mostly really positive but far from being perfect. He's always asked me to try swinging at least, and after countless badgering (and a ton of tears), I gave in. To my surprise, I enjoyed the experience. I felt to empowered. Until a few months later, I discovered that he was actually cheating on me with the woman we had threesome with. It broke me. But we were able to patch things up and move on. Until he asked me to have a threesome again, and with the same girl. I was so naive and I gave in. This time, it didnt enjoy it again. The horors of the past haunted me like crazy.
It's been so difficult. I have already decided many times that we should just break up, and thats the best. But he wont leave. He still tries and hopes that one day I will learn to accept it. He has hurt me so much, and continue to do so.... In so many ways...
At this point, I think I've already given it a chance to best of my ability, but it's really not going to work. I understand him but it's just not what I want for myself.
We've been living together for 4 years, he is 28 and I am 35.
I dont know what to do anymore. It's be3n affecting me for years and I really just want to be left alone. How do I make him understand?
My bf and I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. Before we became official, we had already discussed this. He was clear that he wants a polyamorous relationship, maybe not now but in the future. I also told him that it's not my thing, now and likely even in the future. We still proceeded w our relationship and agreed that "we'll just see how far this will take us".
Our relationship has been mostly really positive but far from being perfect. He's always asked me to try swinging at least, and after countless badgering (and a ton of tears), I gave in. To my surprise, I enjoyed the experience. I felt to empowered. Until a few months later, I discovered that he was actually cheating on me with the woman we had threesome with. It broke me. But we were able to patch things up and move on. Until he asked me to have a threesome again, and with the same girl. I was so naive and I gave in. This time, it didnt enjoy it again. The horors of the past haunted me like crazy.
It's been so difficult. I have already decided many times that we should just break up, and thats the best. But he wont leave. He still tries and hopes that one day I will learn to accept it. He has hurt me so much, and continue to do so.... In so many ways...
At this point, I think I've already given it a chance to best of my ability, but it's really not going to work. I understand him but it's just not what I want for myself.
We've been living together for 4 years, he is 28 and I am 35.
I dont know what to do anymore. It's be3n affecting me for years and I really just want to be left alone. How do I make him understand?