tinymoongirl
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My partner and i have been together for nearly 3 years, and non-monogamous since the start. We live and work together and our relationship has been wonderful.
We have a couple rules set up since the beginning: open and honest communication towards each other and secondary partners, our relationship is primary and priority, we dont have sex with each others friends family or common colleagues, sex we have with others is protected, and lastly: our home is our safe space, which means we only invite others when we do so together.
Last month my partner spend a month abroad. My secondary partner recently got into a monogamous relationship, and needles to say after a couple weeks i was running up the walls. Downloaded tinder for the first time in ages and decided to meet up with a guy. Turns out he didnt live in my city, so after having a drink my lizard brain decided to invite him to my/our place. My partner did know i was meeting this guy, and that we had sex, but i felt so guilty about inviting him over i didnt tell my partner it was at our place.
Ill personally be traveling for 4 months this summer, and i know i wouldnt care if he invited someone while i was abroad. We made the rule originally so we both feel safe and comfortable in our own home. But this isnt relevant as it was a rule regardless. He found a condom wrapper in the bin, and i confessed.
Needles to say, hes very disappointed and angry with me, as ive broken a rule and his trust. And more so because ive only told him after he found evidence. I feel really horrible for what i did, the guy definitely wasn't worth it.
How do i go about this now? I want to regain his trust. I feel so stupid, he means the world to me. Please help
We have a couple rules set up since the beginning: open and honest communication towards each other and secondary partners, our relationship is primary and priority, we dont have sex with each others friends family or common colleagues, sex we have with others is protected, and lastly: our home is our safe space, which means we only invite others when we do so together.
Last month my partner spend a month abroad. My secondary partner recently got into a monogamous relationship, and needles to say after a couple weeks i was running up the walls. Downloaded tinder for the first time in ages and decided to meet up with a guy. Turns out he didnt live in my city, so after having a drink my lizard brain decided to invite him to my/our place. My partner did know i was meeting this guy, and that we had sex, but i felt so guilty about inviting him over i didnt tell my partner it was at our place.
Ill personally be traveling for 4 months this summer, and i know i wouldnt care if he invited someone while i was abroad. We made the rule originally so we both feel safe and comfortable in our own home. But this isnt relevant as it was a rule regardless. He found a condom wrapper in the bin, and i confessed.
Needles to say, hes very disappointed and angry with me, as ive broken a rule and his trust. And more so because ive only told him after he found evidence. I feel really horrible for what i did, the guy definitely wasn't worth it.
How do i go about this now? I want to regain his trust. I feel so stupid, he means the world to me. Please help