I’m looking for some advice from people that are currently engaged in, or have previously been involved in, polyamory relationships. My boyfriend is currently in love with myself as well as another woman. I joked about having a thrupple relationship because at the time we were watching Shameless and we were at the episode where Svetlana, Kevin and Vi started their relationship. He took me seriously and began perusing her on a more personal level. I tried to be okay with it, since I was the one that put it in his head, but the thought of them having sex physically hurts. I then retracted my statement about a thrupple relationship and he seemed fine with it, or at least I thought he was. I then received a long winded text from him explaining that he didn’t like feeling guilty for loving two people and he really wishes that I could be more open.
I don’t want to control him because I love him so much and we’ve been together for five years. I also want nothing more than to make him happy.
Does that mean that I have to sacrifice my feelings to ensure his happiness? I’ve already tried explaining where I’m coming from, but he always brings up that it was my idea first and then starts to make me guilty for changing my mind. I get that I fucked up in that sense. He’s currently over at her house playing video games and hanging out. I just don’t know how I’d feel if they actually had sex. I’m pretty sure it would completely wreck me since none of my other 20 relationships lasted more than six months.
I’m hoping that people from this website can share their experiences and hopefully provide some guidance for how polyamory relationships work. I’m 100% straight and could never have a relationship with the other woman he loves (no offence but the thought of going down on a woman grosses me out). I also find it weird that even though he’s bisexual, he would not be interested in a polyamory relationship that involves another guy. Even me mentioning sleeping with another guy if he gets to sleep with the girl pisses him off because he doesn’t want to share.
I’m so confused and I don’t know what to do. Please be friendly with the comments, I have really poor self esteem and am currently on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication. I usually wouldn’t share that with anyone, but I don’t think there’s anyone on this website that would recognize who I am. If you do, please don’t mention it to me in person.
Sorry about the long post and thank you for your time and thoughts regarding my personal issue.
I don’t want to control him because I love him so much and we’ve been together for five years. I also want nothing more than to make him happy.
Does that mean that I have to sacrifice my feelings to ensure his happiness? I’ve already tried explaining where I’m coming from, but he always brings up that it was my idea first and then starts to make me guilty for changing my mind. I get that I fucked up in that sense. He’s currently over at her house playing video games and hanging out. I just don’t know how I’d feel if they actually had sex. I’m pretty sure it would completely wreck me since none of my other 20 relationships lasted more than six months.
I’m hoping that people from this website can share their experiences and hopefully provide some guidance for how polyamory relationships work. I’m 100% straight and could never have a relationship with the other woman he loves (no offence but the thought of going down on a woman grosses me out). I also find it weird that even though he’s bisexual, he would not be interested in a polyamory relationship that involves another guy. Even me mentioning sleeping with another guy if he gets to sleep with the girl pisses him off because he doesn’t want to share.
I’m so confused and I don’t know what to do. Please be friendly with the comments, I have really poor self esteem and am currently on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication. I usually wouldn’t share that with anyone, but I don’t think there’s anyone on this website that would recognize who I am. If you do, please don’t mention it to me in person.
Sorry about the long post and thank you for your time and thoughts regarding my personal issue.