Hello all, I am a 49 year old hetero cis male. I am married to a 39 year old bisexual cis female. It is my second marriage and her third. We have two beautiful boys who are 5 and 7. Our current relationship dynamic is that I am mono and she is open to see other females. When we first discussed the possibility of her seeing women I did a lot of study about polyamory and open relationships. I have recently decided that I want to consider my own non-monogamy. I joined this board for some guidance and I am now hooked. I think we are in a very healthy place with regard to my wife's journey. I am more than a bit nervous about my own.
I have spent my entire career in Funeral Service and now work as a consultant. I love easily and believe in my heart that I have an endless capacity to love. I also pretty easily separate love, romance, sex and affection. I find I can have very fulfilling relationships with any combination of those things. I find real joy in compersion. I have really loved watching my wife grow in her journey as she is shedding years of shame and guilt surrounding her own sexuality. I am a bit of a philosopher. I am addicted to urban gothic fiction. I will always be a Harry Potter nerd and I still think Steampunk is really cool. I am an empath and very intuitive as well as a self made expert in non verbal communication. Those factors happen to make me a very formidable poker player. I am also an enthusiast and practitioner of traditional Japanese martial arts, philosophy and all things related to budo.
I am very much a giver and tend to frequently place others needs ahead of my own. I am finding the work I need to do right now is about exploring, embracing, communicating and advocating for my own needs. I feel my interactions here have help set me on the right path and I am hopeful for the future. If nothing were to change I feel like my own emotional maturity is growing and will continue to benefit by becoming a part of this community.
Warmest Regards to all.
I have spent my entire career in Funeral Service and now work as a consultant. I love easily and believe in my heart that I have an endless capacity to love. I also pretty easily separate love, romance, sex and affection. I find I can have very fulfilling relationships with any combination of those things. I find real joy in compersion. I have really loved watching my wife grow in her journey as she is shedding years of shame and guilt surrounding her own sexuality. I am a bit of a philosopher. I am addicted to urban gothic fiction. I will always be a Harry Potter nerd and I still think Steampunk is really cool. I am an empath and very intuitive as well as a self made expert in non verbal communication. Those factors happen to make me a very formidable poker player. I am also an enthusiast and practitioner of traditional Japanese martial arts, philosophy and all things related to budo.
I am very much a giver and tend to frequently place others needs ahead of my own. I am finding the work I need to do right now is about exploring, embracing, communicating and advocating for my own needs. I feel my interactions here have help set me on the right path and I am hopeful for the future. If nothing were to change I feel like my own emotional maturity is growing and will continue to benefit by becoming a part of this community.
Warmest Regards to all.