WildColonial
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Part of the reason that R and I opened up our relationship was our differing sex drives. R is content with once every 4-6 weeks, I would prefer at least once a week. I feel guilty if I ask for more than once a month, and even worse if I initiate and she's not into it. She admitted to me a couple nights ago that in some ways, it's easier for her to spend time with K2 because there's no pressure to have sex. I was floored; I didn't think I was putting pressure on her. (BTW, I always take "No" for an answer.)
I've connected with a couple of women online, and one in particular, L, is incredibly exciting to me. She's intelligent, funny, and honest -- some of the many things that I love about R. She's also gorgeous, almost to the point of out of my league, and we share a lot of the same sexual and kinky interests. We've had some very intense text conversations and plan to meet face-to-face in two weeks (we live in different cities, about three hours apart).
Even though I've gotten the green light from R to pursue L, I still feel like I'm cheating. I don't know if it's residual Catholic guilt (I'm a secular humanist but have trouble letting go of some of the dogma) or what's causing it. Is it normal, and what can I do about it?
I've connected with a couple of women online, and one in particular, L, is incredibly exciting to me. She's intelligent, funny, and honest -- some of the many things that I love about R. She's also gorgeous, almost to the point of out of my league, and we share a lot of the same sexual and kinky interests. We've had some very intense text conversations and plan to meet face-to-face in two weeks (we live in different cities, about three hours apart).
Even though I've gotten the green light from R to pursue L, I still feel like I'm cheating. I don't know if it's residual Catholic guilt (I'm a secular humanist but have trouble letting go of some of the dogma) or what's causing it. Is it normal, and what can I do about it?
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