I'm (possibly) poly, and my partner is mono. We attempted an OR when we first started going out, but I hurt her a lot in the process. Eventually I decided to be with her practising mono, and not seeing other people. I still feel a sadness about not being able to have other experiences. I don't watch porn as we both felt that it wasn't healthy for me any more.
I guess I'm wondering whether it's ethical to have fantasies about other people besides my partner, while masturbating. I know that having thoughts or desires isn't something that I can control, but I'm not sure whether masturbating to them is acceptable either.
I guess I'm wondering whether it's ethical to have fantasies about other people besides my partner, while masturbating. I know that having thoughts or desires isn't something that I can control, but I'm not sure whether masturbating to them is acceptable either.