Mephistopheles
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From all that I (42M) have experienced in life, I have found that nonmonogamy is a privilege reserved only for couples and women. What can I do to change this?
Is Poly only for the Privileged?
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Hello Mephistopheles,
It is like a well-known secret that men often have more difficulty finding poly partners than women. I do not know how to change this situation. Add to that the fact that it is hard to find love in the first place, whether poly or mono. This does not mean you are searching for the impossible, it just means it will probably take a long time, and you'll have to be very patient. I am a male in an MFM V, so I know it can be done. My experience is that my chances have always been better when I started as a platonic friend with a woman. That can eventually evolve into something more romantic. Anyway, these are my thoughts on the subject.
Regards,
Kevin T.
It is like a well-known secret that men often have more difficulty finding poly partners than women. I do not know how to change this situation. Add to that the fact that it is hard to find love in the first place, whether poly or mono. This does not mean you are searching for the impossible, it just means it will probably take a long time, and you'll have to be very patient. I am a male in an MFM V, so I know it can be done. My experience is that my chances have always been better when I started as a platonic friend with a woman. That can eventually evolve into something more romantic. Anyway, these are my thoughts on the subject.
Regards,
Kevin T.
Um... no? We are a FMF "V", meaning the man is poly. I know several men who are poly, and even more who are just generally non-monogamous.
I don't even agree with Kevin that "men often have more difficulty finding poly partners than women" - men have more difficulties finding sex partners; women who just want sex or casual and aren't picky have an easy time there. But poly women looking for relationships need to be picky. Finding love or compatible long-term partners is equally difficult for all sexes.
I don't even agree with Kevin that "men often have more difficulty finding poly partners than women" - men have more difficulties finding sex partners; women who just want sex or casual and aren't picky have an easy time there. But poly women looking for relationships need to be picky. Finding love or compatible long-term partners is equally difficult for all sexes.
There's a much more interesting question I wonder, whether poly is for the privileged who have the time and money to sustain multiple relationships (can contribute to rent to share flat with another partner, have flexible working hours to work out dating schedules, can afford therapy/personal development...). I think it partly is, but maybe there are ways of poly underrepresented on this forum where people actually do share resources effectively.
