Ilovecolors
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I don't want to put down myself but I'm rated to be a 0/10 on the beauty scale physically as low as possible.
Our bodies and faces are shells that are animated into beauty by who we are xI don't want to put down myself but I'm rated to be a 0/10 on the beauty scale physically as low as possible.
This is not just about looks it's about me being frustrated that I might never find a boyfriend.Hello Ilovecolors,
I'm very sorry that you are having this frustrating experience. For what it's worth, my observation has been that people are initially attracted by looks (and what counts as beauty to one person, is different from what counts as beauty to another), but eventually people are attracted by personality. I have found this to be true about myself, as I get to know someone more and more, their personality starts having more and more effect on how "easy on the eyes" they are. I have found that someone can be a knockout in the beginning, but if they have a foul personality, it's not long before their face causes me to cringe.
Don't give up.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
There are not many places in the area I live in that you socialize and meet prople.I'm sorry you are frustrated.
I do not get the rating thing though. Who is rating you and where?
Where do you socialize and get out to meet people at this time?
How are your social skills at this time?
What's your hygiene / presentation like?
We all come how we do. And we don't really control what people are most attracted to initially. If people have a thing for tall people, they notice them first then. If they like redheads, they notice them first then. But it doesn't mean they are blind to everyone else.
One could make the most of what they've been naturally blessed with, work to present neat and clean, develop social skills and be friendly, etc.
Galagirl
This not just about looks or ratings this is about be frustrated about never getting a boyfriend too.Never is quite a long time. Are you catastrophizing? That's a thought process that can feed frustration. You brought up the notion of rating and again, this sounds like it's risking becoming a negative affirmation that feeds into the feeling of being frustrated. It's disempowering. It may be worth counteracting that with positive affirmations, especially if you didn't get a lot of positive affirmations growing up. Even if you did, it can be powerful to remind yourself daily of your strengths.
I directly addressed the feelings of frustration and how your thoughts might be perpetuating those feelings.This not just about looks or ratings this is about be frustrated about never getting a boyfriend too.
There are not many places in the area I live in that you socialize and meet prople.
Then why bring up a rating? Others have asked why you have such a low opinion of yourself for a reason. Your self esteem impacts your dating life.This not just about looks or ratings this is about be frustrated about never getting a boyfriend too.
I'm 32.OP, can I ask how old you are?