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PolyCuriousDude

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Hello friends, I have more details in my bio, but basically, I was raised in a very strict religion in Georgia (AKA Bible Belt) that my wife and I converted out of 25 years ago. But it's still hard to shake that brainwashery! Our happy, never-religious kids are adults. We're trying to figure out what's next for 2 idiots who committed themselves to a marriage formula created by old sexually repressed (possibly insane) men thousands of years ago. We mostly disagree with the formula. We are far from healed of the religious trauma that tells us you are all going straight to hell, and us with you for even being curious. ;)

In my journey to heal this childhood trauma, I've found 2 types of "liberated" people: (1) Those who seem to accept that sexuality/sensuality is naughty or bad and get off on the being bad anyway, or (2) those who are liberated because they don't view anything at all wrong with sensuality or sexuality in the first place. I'd very much like to meet the latter group and learn their secrets on achieving such enlightenment!
 
Greetings PolyCuriousDude,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are just at the beginning of your poly journey, or well maybe you've been on this journey all your life and just weren't aware of it. I also left the church I was brought up in, and today am an atheist. I believe that consent is what defines morality, that is if two (or more) people consent to an arrangement, then that arrangement is moral. I don't take much stock in how the Bible defines morality. Anyway, you are on the right track, you are developing a sex-positive outlook.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Omg, I've got a crush on your writing style immediately! Lol. I'm a world away so can't help you out, but I wish you all the best in your exploration and deconstruction and then rebuilding of your outlook. I fortunately got of Christianity young, but I still find echoes in what you wrote. P.s. I'm a (2).

All the best

Evie
 
PolyCuriousDude said:
Hello friends, I have more details in my bio but basically I was raised in a very strict religion in Georgia (AKA Bible Belt) that my wife and I converted out of 25 years ago but still hard to shake that brainwashery! Our happy never-religious kids are adults and we're trying to figure out what's next for 2 idiots who committed themselves to a marriage formula created by old sexually repressed (possibly insane) men thousands of years ago and mostly disagree with the formula. We are far from healed of the religious trauma that tells us you are all going straight to hell and us with you for even being curious ;) In my journey to heal this childhood trauma I've found 2 types of "liberated" people: (1) Those who seem to accept that sexuality/sensuality is naughty or bad and get off on the being bad anyway or (2) those who are liberated because they don't view anything at all wrong with sensuality or sexuality in the first place. I'd very much like to meet the latter group and learn their secrets on achieving such enlightenment!
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Hey, welcome to the board. Most polyamorists are pretty sex-positive, I'd say, since you have to go against the grain of a mindset that says sex is bad, to even advocate for having multiple sexual romantic partners as your objective.

As a mod, I'd suggest starting a thread in either the Relationships section or the General Polyamory section, as this is a pretty big discussion that doesn't belong just in Intros. :)

I'd be happy to "share my secrets."
 
Evie said:
Omg, I've got a crush on your writing style immediately! Lol. I'm a world away so can't help you out, but I wish you all the best in your exploration and deconstruction and then rebuilding of your outlook. I fortunately got of Christianity young, but I still find echoes in what you wrote. P.s. I'm a (2).

All the best

Evie
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Thanks. Laughing so I don't cry is, sadly, my favorite coping mechanism.

I'm happy to make enlightened friends in any corner of this flat Earth. So great to meet you!

P.S. I'm a guy who had to Google what a 2 was, so still learning, but sounds fun!

Take care.
 
PolyCuriousDude said:
Thanks. Laughing so I don't cry is sadly my favorite coping mechanism. I'm happy to make enlightened friends in any corner of this flat Earth, so great to meet you!

PS, I'm a guy who had to Google what a 2 was so still learning, but sounds fun!

Take care
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I was referring to your 2 above ... The sexually liberated person because I don't see anything wrong with it in the first place.
 
PolyCuriousDude said:
Hello friends, I have more details in my bio, but basically, I was raised in a very strict religion in Georgia (AKA Bible Belt) that my wife and I converted out of 25 years ago. But it's still hard to shake that brainwashery! Our happy, never-religious kids are adults. We're trying to figure out what's next for 2 idiots who committed themselves to a marriage formula created by old sexually repressed (possibly insane) men thousands of years ago. We mostly disagree with the formula. We are far from healed of the religious trauma that tells us you are all going straight to hell, and us with you for even being curious. ;)

In my journey to heal this childhood trauma, I've found 2 types of "liberated" people: (1) Those who seem to accept that sexuality/sensuality is naughty or bad and get off on the being bad anyway, or (2) those who are liberated because they don't view anything at all wrong with sensuality or sexuality in the first place. I'd very much like to meet the latter group and learn their secrets on achieving such enlightenment!
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I understand where you are coming from. I too was raised in the heart of South Georgia, and I have recently begun my journey exploring a more liberated sexuality after a marriage of 16 years that ultimately ended. Nice to meet others traveling a similar path.
 
My sexual liberation started young, in my reading material. Valley Of Horses, by Jean M. Auel left a strong impression.
 
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