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[jelleesi]

I'm new to the community but not the feelings of polyamory. It definitely has been a struggle through the years within mono relationships. I'm definitely a saphisexual, in my opinion, because I've always found myself more drawn to people's talents and passions. I think it's one of the big reasons dating apps just don't work for me because it's hard to judge a book by the cover. I want to browse people's interests and careers versus their looks. But over the years I've found myself both sexually and romantically attracted to men I find mentally stimulating. But I found that I can have these feelings for more than one person at once and often fantasized about pairing them up with myself. Maybe this all a little too much TMI for an introduction but I'm also just faceless name on the internet.

I'm also no stranger to the fetish community and have a thing for men who cross dress and are more submissive. I've also found myself more attracted to Asian men as far as relationships go but anyone with passion and talent catches my eye. I think it would be nice to meet someone who is looking for another with similar tendencies and willing to be on the lookout for another to complete a trio. Or maybe this is just another form of fetish of wanting two men. Who knows. Welcome to the wacky and wonderful world of sexuality. Thanks for reading!

 

[jelleesi]

PS... I guess I should do the traditional interwebs introduction... 39/F/WA

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings jelleesi,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Thanks for sharing a little about yourself, I think your intro was just right. Just curious, what do you mean by WA? I presume it's an abbreviation.

Glad you're here,
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Welcome aboard!

 

[Evie]

Washington (State).

 

[kdt26417]

Okay; I thought that might be it, but just wasn't sure.

 

[Magdlyn]

I'm new to the community, but not the feelings of polyamory. It definitely has been a struggle through the years within mono relationships. I'm definitely a saphisexual, in my opinion, because I've always found myself more drawn to people's talents and passions.

Welcome jelleesi,

The word is sapiosexual, actually.

I think it's one of the big reasons dating apps just don't work for me, because it's hard to judge a book by the cover. I want to browse people's interests and careers versus their looks.

There are some dating sites where you can read pretty good profile essays that give you more info about personalities and interests and careers, not just shots of faces or dicks or boobs.

I found that I can have feelings for more than one person at once.

Most people on earth can actually be attracted to more than one person at once. But our culture "officially" supports monogamy, so many people deny they have these feelings, or if they do face it, they think they must be "emotionally cheating" on their official mono partner. (This does not stop married people from having affairs, obviously.) Humans are naturally promiscuous. We have just designed a culture under the patriarchy where people (women especially) may only have one romantic partner. Of course, men are allowed to have more than one wife in many cultures to this day. It's just women who are expected to only desire and have sex with one man. This has been done to control their sexuality.

You might want to read the book Sex at Dawn for anthropological background into this subject.

and often fantasized about pairing them up with myself. Maybe this all a little too much TMI for an introduction.

Not at all.

I'm also no stranger to the fetish community and have a thing for men who cross dress and are more submissive. I've also found myself more attracted to Asian men, as far as relationships go, but anyone with passion and talent catches my eye. I think it would be nice to meet someone who is looking for another with similar tendencies and willing to be on the lookout for another to complete a trio. Or maybe this is just another form of fetish of wanting two men. Who knows. Welcome to the wacky and wonderful world of sexuality. Thanks for reading!

polyamory.com is not a dating site, but we are an advice board for people who want to fully practice polyamory. Sometimes people make friends here. Rarely a couple of people might hook up or form a successful relationship. The best thing to do is to read threads and comment on the ones that interest you, or start one of your own in Poly Relationships, if you have questions or issues to address.

If you're straight and want to date 2 men, it can happen. Don't expect to "join a couple" of 2 bi men. Just start dating and tell anyone you date that you are only interested in ethical non-monogamy. Sooner or later you may find yourself dating 2 men at once.

 

[jelleesi]

Greetings jelleesi,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Thanks for sharing a little about yourself, I think your intro was just right. Just curious, what do you mean by WA? I presume it's an abbreviation.

Glad you're here,
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

Sorry I threw in the old school a/s/l info since it's a message board. haha. But, yes, I'm from Washington State (WA).

 

[jelleesi]

Welcome jelleesi,

The word is sapiosexual, actually.


There are some dating sites where you can read pretty good profile essays that give you more info about personalities and interests and careers, not just shots of faces or dicks or boobs.

Most people on earth can actually be attracted to more than one person at once. But our culture "officially" supports monogamy, so many people deny they have these feelings, or if they do face it, they think they must be "emotionally cheating" on their official mono partner. (This does not stop married people from having affairs, obviously.) Humans are naturally promiscuous. We have just designed a culture under the patriarchy where people (women especially) may only have one romantic partner. Of course, men are allowed to have more than one wife in many cultures to this day. It's just women who are expected to only desire and have sex with one man. This has been done to control their sexuality.

You might want to read the book Sex at Dawn for anthropological background into this subject.

Not at all.

polyamory.com is not a dating site, but we are an advice board for people who want to fully practice polyamory. Sometimes people make friends here. Rarely a couple of people might hook up or form a successful relationship. The best thing to do is to read threads and comment on the ones that interest you, or start one of your own in Poly Relationships, if you have questions or issues to address.

If you're straight and want to date 2 men, it can happen. Don't expect to "join a couple" of 2 bi men. Just start dating and tell anyone you date that you are only interested in ethical non-monogamy. Sooner or later you may find yourself dating 2 men at once.

Sorry if it sounded like I was trying to make this a wanted ad. I was just throwing up my thoughts into the void of a message board. hahaha.