Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

kdt26417 said:
Lots of people are clueless when things go wrong on a forum. I'm astounded that Marcus, a smarter guy than me, didn't notice when things turned south for me on that thread.....Anyway with me gone, the poly-fi haters can freely hate on poly-fi without my interference. Not that the hating is done consciously, but man is it ever done.
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I'm late to this party, but include me in the clueless bunch because I was following that thread and I also didn't see any south turning. I didn't see anything even approaching hating, although I can see how it would feel that way for you. To my view, it was yet one more of Ravencroft's very theoretical and abstract discussions, examining all sides, ad nauseam, of an issue that is of marginal interest to me - and AH was just one more examiner. I can totally see how this issue is personal to you and how you came to feel attacked. Your feelings are your feelings and I'm quite relieved to find an explanation to the poly-fi thread discussion here because in and of itself, the thread was confusing. I was indeed clueless about your feeling attacked because that was not apparent to me in the posts, which all seemed heady and abstract, not personal or about anyone in particular.

I really appreciate that the mods have taken a hands off approach to the forum lately and I don't think it has to do with Mercury in Retrograde, but with the conspicuous sudden departure (or absence?) of the mod who was previously stepping in - to my taste, too much and too soon, but that's just my opinion. Nobody wants anyone to feel judged or not welcome here, least of all you, Kevin. You're the heart and soul of this forum, as I see it. I love the light hand moderation and increased freedom we have here now, but I think we all want to keep our high priority of inclusion. I hope that we can continue to speak freely as self-moderating adults while we maintain the spirit of unification that defines this remarkable Internet community.
 
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Thank you for your supportive words, FA. I suppose it is for the best that the mods aren't getting as involved in their moderation. The adults here can work things out for/among themselves.
 
AutumnLeaves said:
You've pretty much nailed why I only ever read the blog section any more. For what it's worth, I think it would be equally silly to judge you for being poly-fi as it is to judge... well, anyone else on what relationship style best suits them. But people love to have opinions and those on the ends are likely to voice them I suppose. I love your poly-fi blog.
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I'm so sorry you felt attacked and I hope you continue to find the blog section a safe place to be, Kevin. For what's it's worth I have nothing against your poly fi and I've been solo poly for awhile now.

Keep doing you, haters will hate and it's not your responsibility to change the way they feel about you. That's their problem, on them, not you. You're a great person and we love to have you here.

@Autumnleaves
I concur with this. I tend to stick a lot more in the blog section. I'll browse the rest of forums but don't feel compelled to interact when it becomes vitriol at anyone person(s).
 
Hi starlight1, thanks for adding your support. This blog so far has been a safe space for me, hopefully it is for others who come here too. Things can get rough out there on the other boards.
 
Tomorrow I have a dental appointment. Yay! I get to find out if I have a cavity. For awhile there I was not brushing every day like I should, so I guess a cavity would serve me right. :(
 
No cavities. However, three of the four of my wisdom teeth have fractures, almost certainly from grinding while I'm asleep. I've been resisting getting a bite guard up until now, but I guess I don't have much choice. As for those wisdom teeth, they're just going to leave them, and if they start giving me pain, they'll pull them out. They've been ground almost down to the gum line, so I guess it would be no big loss.

Tomorrow there will be a dual birthday party at my ex-SIL's house, and we're invited. Coincidentally, Brother-Husband's birthday is today.
 
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I wasn't surprised that Ravenscroft started it, that guy lives to put other people down, but I was surprised at how much enthusiasm the thread was met with, from a lot of people.

Who am I to talk when I posted a lot on that thread, right? Well as I mentioned earlier, at the time I thought poly-fi's and non-poly-fi's were finally starting to get along. I was rudely awakened, and have stopped posting there since then. I guess I learned to trust people just a little bit less. Anyway with me gone, the poly-fi haters can freely hate on poly-fi without my interference. Not that the hating is done consciously, but man is it ever done.[/QUOTE]

I smell this all over... Circumspect on use of term "fidelity." Not enough aware to make a statement...
 
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Thanks Aery, I appreciate your support.
 
The party at ex-SIL's house was good, we just stayed "past my bedtime." Then yesterday (the next day), I felt rather ugh, and spent some time on the bed "resting."

Snowbunny and I went to the party, Brother-Husband could have attended after work, but he was a little too worn out from work, so he chose to go straight home.

Ex-SIL is seeing someone new, his name is Todd and he is somewhat of a cool guy, I like him.

This concludes my riport for today.
 
On Monday and Tuesday (a guy from his work helped on Monday), Brother-Husband installed a new walkway to the door we use most often. I thought it looked decent, but Snowbunny isn't happy with it, she doesn't like the color (dark brown), or the fact that the planks are made of plastic, or for that matter the fact that Brother-Husband didn't just repaint the original wooden planks. She wishes he would have consulted her first, but I think he was just hoping that when she saw the finished product, she'd change her mind and decide it looks good. She isn't saying anything about it now, but she was venting to me about it on Monday.

I think Snowbunny is at least mostly over being sick. I had a bit of a cough myself a few days ago, but that's basically gone away.

I've also had some mild nasea off and on for the past month or two, but not so much the last day or two. Not sure what caused it.
 
I just want to say I feel good that you correctly said "would have" rather than "would of". It is one of my pet language peeves.

Leetah
 
Thanks Leetah. I have a number of language peeves, "would have" rather than "would of" is just one of them. How about, "used to" rather than "use to." Or, "per se" rather than "per say." Or, "in the throes of" rather than "in the throws of."

Or, "I" instead of "i." Even worse is when I see "im" and "ive." And one of the things that bugs me the most: ending every sentence with two periods.. not three.. and not one.. ARRRGH!

Or, "dont," "wont" ... I know there are many more that I'm just not thinking of at the moment. I'll definitely know when I see 'em.
 
How about when people get "then" and "than" mixed up? or "it's" and "its"

How about when people split words that are intended to go together? For example "mean while" instead of "meanwhile" ... or "in stead" instead of "instead"

To everyone reading this blog: Can you think of other language peeves?

Of course there is always the classic ... "there," "they're," and "their"
 
"I should of went with them."
"Bill reached out to her and I."
"Frannie is a dancer that I love to watch."
"Julio has got alot of fans."
"I'm afraid we're going to loose this round."
"I wish this pool had a lot less people in it."
"John, Carrie and Scott had to decide between them who would be captain."

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These exspecially annoy me:

Can I axe you a question?
I'd rather go to Maui then Mexico.
Let's eat Grandma!
Happy Birthday Mark!
"I'm good. How are you?" NO!! You are WELL!
Your Welcome.
"Es Car Got." ( I heard three separate people order this on a cruise.)
If I was being honest.
Putting punctuation marks OUTSIDE of quotation marks.
I need to lay down.
It doesn't affect me.

I could go on and on!
 
My suspicion is that a lot of these come from people who are writing as they speak. "Would've" sound very close to "would of" and "loose" certainly looks more like how one would spell "lose". Once upon a time cultured people used contractions differently. I had to get used to Austen characters saying "Would not you?" rather than our ubiquitous "Wouldn't you?" There is also the often mentioned transition from saying "a napple" to "an apple".

I am not great at punctuation myself so only the most egregious mistakes bother me.

Leetah
 
Ok, I can see the problem with most of the examples, but can you please clarify the rest to me?
FallenAngelina said:
"Frannie is a dancer that I love to watch."
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"I wish this pool had a lot less people in it."
"John, Carrie and Scott had to decide between them who would be captain."[/QUOTE]
Should it be "whom I love to watch", "fewer people" and... is it "choose" instead of "decide", or is there another problem?

Ellamenopea said:
If I was being honest.
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I see this one a lot. What's the correct form?
Putting punctuation marks OUTSIDE of quotation marks.
I need to lay down.
It doesn't affect me.
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Ooops, I could be guilty of those (and certainly of mixing then and than). What's the problem with the last sentence?
 
Sometimes I am deliberately incorrect in my grammar because I'm doing what I consider to be writing in dialect. But I try to do this is such a way that it's obvious I'm emphasizing my "voice" in the writing.

But I make more mistakes than usual when I'm on my phone using the "swype" keyboard functionality. Auto-correct gets me sometimes...funny when my "smart" phone makes me sound pretty ducking stupid... ;)

(Yes, I know that starting a sentence with "But" is technically incorrect. It's how I would say it, though!)
 
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