Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

2:32 p.m., Sunday the 14th

I'm not completely recovered yet, I still have similar effects at night, but it's getting better. Everything went well yesterday. I don't say that everything was perfect, but it was all fun. Dinner was an imitation-chicken burger, corn, and watermelon for dessert. Not sure what we'll have tonight. Stan might come over (unlikely but), and Snowbunny has a massage appointment at 5:00 p.m. I think. Sounds like a busy evening, right? I'm neither opposed nor in favor.
 
My two cents, for whatever it is worth. Yes, hierarchical poly-fi Vs do work.

My wife and I tried cuckolding, but the wife needed more of a relationship with her paramour. She is inherently demisexual and sapiosexual, and is more compatible with a long-term relationship then a one-night stand. As her hubby, I love to play matchmaker for her. Matchmaker is defined for us as I do the introductions and step back and let nature take its course.

The last gentleman that I played the matchmaker for my wife turned out to be a hit for the wife and me. I will call him David. He approached me to ask for my permission to date my wife. After we talked at length, I found him to be respectful, upfront, and a real nice guy, at that. I told wifey of this gentleman who wanted to date her and I gave my blessing. I drove her to her first date with him.

That date lead to many more dates, some with me, others without me. I thought it was important for me to give them space to find intimacy, and for them to bond as a couple, which they did over time. I was there to share the special occasion when my wife confessed her love for David. I was proud of both of them.

So my wife became the hinge in a hetero MFM poly-fi V. However, we all agreed that the poly relationship needed to be adjusted after a period of time. David came to me and wanted to know if I would give my blessing for our hinge to wear his collar. My wife let me know that if I agreed with her taking David's collar that our poly V would become hierarchical, with David becoming her primary and I secondary.

I asked David what that would look like to him becoming her primary and I secondary. David simply replied that he would become the decision-maker in all things. I gave my blessing. To be honest, it was the best decision that I made, that my wife made, to allow David to be elevated to her primary. The intimacy that my wife and I share is simply off the charts. I was never happier for myself, for my wife, and for David.

No question, to make this work for all involved took communication and respect.

On a side note, David told me that he would provide me with an example of what it would look like as my wife's primary after he collared her. I told him that I would appreciate that very much. He provided me with two lessons on his decision-making authority after he collared my wife. I will leave those for another entry.
 
12:21 p.m., Monday the 15th

Sounds like you, your wife, and David have a good setup, you have had a successful experience in ENM. Thanks for sharing your story, it will encourage people.
 
However, sadly, all good things must come to an end. No fault on anyone's part. David had two other poly wives, and his wife, and then he became a dad. The man was trying, but we could see that, over a period of time, he was stretched too thin.
 
That's understandable, I believe that the three of you had an amicable parting.
 
3:25 p.m., Tuesday the 16th

For dinner yesterday and Sunday, Snowbunny tried her hand at chicken massaman curry. It was pretty good, although on Sunday the carrot slices were crunchy. Snowbunny fixed that yesterday by cooking what was left in the slow cooker. I don't know how Brother-Husband feels, but I consider this dish to be a success.

Ginger had a Rally class yesterday (after dinner), and I think both of the dogs have a practice today. Ginger has a practice tomorrow. When the dogs have a class or practice, dinner is usually done early. Other than that, I can't tell what dinner tonight will be.
 
1:12 p.m., Wednesday the 17th

For dinner last night we had freezer-to-oven pizzas, it was good. But then I forgot all about it, couldn't for the life of me remember it, and had to ask SB for a reminder. I can remember a lot of things, but I don't get why I'd forget something as simple as what we had for dinner. Is this the early onset of dementia? Shudder.
 
1:35 p.m., Thursday the 18th

Last night we had meatless fish sticks, green beans (from our neighbor), pickle slices, and cucumber/onion salad. The meatless fish sticks were okay with plenty of tartar sauce, but I don't think SB will get them again. She said that tonight we'd have something Mexicanish. Sounds promising, but she didn't go into any further detail about that.
 
2:18 p.m., Friday the 19th

We had fajitas. They were super good, I do hope there's more of that. I think we're having microwave burritos today, meh. The dogs have Barn Hunt all day today, so SB took the day off and is with the dogs. Tomorrow Stan is coming over for dinner and a visit, I'm looking forward to that.
 
2:23 p.m., Saturday the 20th

We have a thing we do with Stan, where we each think of a few songs that have some kind of a common theme. Then we watch videos of those songs. Today the theme is, each song has to have a number in the title. I was actually able to think of quite a few:
  • Take 5 (Dave Brubeck)
  • 9 to 5 (Dolly Parton)
  • 25 or 6 to 4 (Chicago)
  • The 12 Days of Xmas
  • 867-5309 (Jenny)
  • Summer of '69 (Bryan Adams)
  • 99 Luftballoons (Red Balloons)
  • 99 Dead Baboons (spoof)
  • 16 going on 17 (Sound of Music)
Plus a google search added "8 Days a Week" (Beatles) to my list. I only needed to pick two songs, but this way I'll have lots of backups. Stan will be over at about 3:00 p.m., we always have fun when he's around.
 
That's a fun game. When I was young, I used to do something similar with my parents, but we had to sing the lines with the theme.

Beatles had another song that fits, "When I'm 64".
 
12:05 p.m., Sunday the 21st

Yeah, I don't know why I didn't think of that one ... That was actually one of Stan's picks.
 
3:25 p.m., Monday the 22nd

We had corn dogs for dinner last night ... not my favorite ... plus spinach and leftover green beans. Tonight we're having pozole. It's simmering on the stove, it smells good (but we'll see).
 
2:59 p.m., Tuesday the 23rd

The soup wasn't bad, even though I'm not normally a "soup person." I guess we're having it again tonight, although SB said she'd make BH a chicken salad instead, being as BH is very sensitive to spicy food. He did try the pozole last night, but it was pretty rough on him.
 
2:59 p.m., Wednesday the 24th

SB and I had a chat today about whether to get another cat. My reluctance has been that I am getting up there in years, and if I pass away before the cat does, I worry that the cat will wonder what happened to me and why I left. SB said she would show the cat my dead body the one last time, and she feels that the cat would understand. BH seems very eager to get a new cat, SB said he is 90% there, while she is 25% there owing to the many difficulties of having another pet -- and a cat in particular, what with the dogs, Ginger especially got overly enthused about Rainee and we needed to have a gate in front of my room so the dogs couldn't get in. The dogs can get in now, and they would wonder why they're being restricted if we added a new gate.
 
1:05 p.m., Thursday the 25th

Dinner last night was some kind of salmon patties, plus broccoli on the side. No complaints. Tonight we're having something with tofu. Bleah. SB says we'll eat out sometime over the weekend. Now that's what I'm talking about! We'll also go grocery shopping sometime over the weekend. That's good.
 
1:49 p.m., Friday the 26th

I wasn't thrilled about the baked tofu bites, but they were better than I expected. SB also prepared Ramen noodles on the side, but all the broth drained off and they didn't taste like anything. SB also prepared veggies on the side, and honestly that was the best part of the meal.

Last night I had a rather "interesting" nightmare, I didn't dream I was physically in danger, but it was emotionally crushing, I think I am still feeling the effects of it. In the dream, I was a player in a D&D game. I can't remember the details, but I did something in the game context that offended the DM and other players. Everyone was pissed at me and I tried to do damage control, but it didn't seem to help much. I just can't describe how awful and humiliated I felt. I don't know why I didn't leave the game.
 
2:10 p.m., Saturday the 27th

SB had I think a hair appointment last night; on the way back she got us three pizzas and salad from Dion's, including a 505 pizza which is like the best pizza ever. She also got us Maker's Mark bourbon, with A&W root beer to mix with it. After dinner, BH and I watched Weapons which is a low-key type of horror flick. It wasn't terrible, but I found it somewhat slow and confusing. Anyway today I think the dogs have a Rally class, SB is with them doing that right now. I'm not sure where BH is, he might be in the garage (his man cave) working on a painting. That's all I have to tell you for now.
 
12:36 p.m., Sunday the 28th

So actually, BH was on a (local I think) road trip with Stan. An hour or two after they got back, Stan came over for dinner and a visit. We did some more of the songs with numbers in the titles, since we had so many leftover from the time before. SB got takeout for us from Golden Pride. She got fried chicken for everyone but me, because she knows I prefer their veggie burrito and that's what she got. I was pretty happy about that. After Stan went home, SB and I went grocery shopping which was another enjoyable thing.
 
1:30 p.m., Monday the 29th

Last night we had leftover chicken and pizza. Sounds like something I should be raving about, I know. An hour or two later we watched a couple of TV shows: the latest South Park episode, and a Better Call Saul episode. Not a lot to tell you at this time.
 
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