MtnPolyLoversX2
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I won’t get into too much detail but my partner I’ve been seeing for a few months I recently found out her husband made some poor choices sometime a ways back . Let’s just say the details are sketchy but he got into some legal trouble chatting with someone that wasn’t as she claimed to be ….. you can unbox that yourself
I’ve also found out part of his conditions is subject to random home visits of not the nicest kind. I’ve been to their home in the past not knowing about this prior issue until I was informed his home was randomly “checked in on”
I’m not judging him on what might or might not of happened, he still has his wife and children that have to be embarrassed by these random visits but for myself I felt very uncomfortable with the situation and informed her I will no longer be coming to their home to spend time together, I’m also considering ending the relationship with her . I feel like I’m punishing my partner for someone else’s choices. My thought is if it was that big of a issue he wouldn’t be free to live his life
It’s not fair to her but I just don’t know how I feel at the moment with this information and feel she doesn’t deserve to be punished but I don’t know what other choices their might be .
Edit. My opinion for what it’s worth I don’t think it was intentional, after getting to know him he seems he is a very gullible guy , I think he fell for a situation of someone showing interest in him while claiming she was someone of a “number” she wasn’t. Maybe I shouldn’t be putting this information out here but it’s not something I’ve had to deal with in the Poly community before
I’ve also found out part of his conditions is subject to random home visits of not the nicest kind. I’ve been to their home in the past not knowing about this prior issue until I was informed his home was randomly “checked in on”
I’m not judging him on what might or might not of happened, he still has his wife and children that have to be embarrassed by these random visits but for myself I felt very uncomfortable with the situation and informed her I will no longer be coming to their home to spend time together, I’m also considering ending the relationship with her . I feel like I’m punishing my partner for someone else’s choices. My thought is if it was that big of a issue he wouldn’t be free to live his life
It’s not fair to her but I just don’t know how I feel at the moment with this information and feel she doesn’t deserve to be punished but I don’t know what other choices their might be .
Edit. My opinion for what it’s worth I don’t think it was intentional, after getting to know him he seems he is a very gullible guy , I think he fell for a situation of someone showing interest in him while claiming she was someone of a “number” she wasn’t. Maybe I shouldn’t be putting this information out here but it’s not something I’ve had to deal with in the Poly community before
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