A little over 3 weeks ago my wife of 5 years told me that she had come to the realization she was poly. I am determined to stay with her and be there for her but I am not poly. I've been having a real hard time with it. I found a few posts on this site where other people seem to have gone through what I'm dealing with now. Some people had some very helpful things to say. Others seemed pretty biased one way or the other and unable/unwilling to detach from their own personal perspectives. I've been working through this with my wife, getting help from the Chaplain at work (I am not a Christian but it's nice to have a confidential conversation with someone holding a singular viewpoint) but I haven't really interacted with the community and so my support base is currently unbalanced. I figured I'd sign up here. Maybe make friends. Pick a few fights. Win some. Lose some. Grow as a person. So far I've been digging through forum threads, read articles, reading marriage enrichment books. If I'm being honest, right now I really just am hoping to speak to someone who's going/gone through what I'm experiencing. I'm pretty raw right now and I'm still unsure of who I am anymore. Not really a forum guy but everyday is something new. Yesterday I started journaling for the first time in over a decade. Who knows who I'll be tomorrow?