Hi all! My name's Sarah. My husband and I spent our first thirteen years monogamous. About a decade ago, I fell in love with a friend and we gradually transitioned--with quite a lot of negotiation--to polyamory.
That first relationship ended, but we kept the poly.
I'm here mostly because I need community. When covid hit, I had just entered into a long-distance relationship with a friend on whom I'd had a quiet crush for a long time. I was so thrilled the attraction was mutual, and this person made me so happy.
But the pandemic started and he abruptly cut me off entirely. I'm still not sure why. We hadn't had any kind of argument or anything--he was a little prickly on our last call, and then he was gone. It's been six months since he's spoken to me--he's been ignoring my emails and DMs, and I've long since stopped reaching out--so I know it's indisputably over, but I'm still struggling to make sense of it.
I'm sad about losing a relationship I was excited about, but mostly I'm so damned heartbroken that I've lost him as a friend, and don't know how to fix it.
Anyway, it's hitting me hard. I'm used to talking through everything, even breakups, and in this case there's no talking happening at all. Pure ghosting.
I've been sharing my hurt with my husband, but he's told me directly he isn't the best person to support me through this (because jealousy), and has asked me to find other people to talk to. Which is completely reasonable--albeit inconveniently difficult because of this stupid pandemic.
So hi, here I am, nice to meet you! Wish the circumstances were completely different.
That first relationship ended, but we kept the poly.
I'm here mostly because I need community. When covid hit, I had just entered into a long-distance relationship with a friend on whom I'd had a quiet crush for a long time. I was so thrilled the attraction was mutual, and this person made me so happy.
But the pandemic started and he abruptly cut me off entirely. I'm still not sure why. We hadn't had any kind of argument or anything--he was a little prickly on our last call, and then he was gone. It's been six months since he's spoken to me--he's been ignoring my emails and DMs, and I've long since stopped reaching out--so I know it's indisputably over, but I'm still struggling to make sense of it.
I'm sad about losing a relationship I was excited about, but mostly I'm so damned heartbroken that I've lost him as a friend, and don't know how to fix it.
Anyway, it's hitting me hard. I'm used to talking through everything, even breakups, and in this case there's no talking happening at all. Pure ghosting.
I've been sharing my hurt with my husband, but he's told me directly he isn't the best person to support me through this (because jealousy), and has asked me to find other people to talk to. Which is completely reasonable--albeit inconveniently difficult because of this stupid pandemic.
So hi, here I am, nice to meet you! Wish the circumstances were completely different.