Greetings Wjm2000,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
It's true, polyamory will change your primary relationship. Just talking about polyamory will change your primary relationship, so really you are already there. Though certainly putting polyamory into practice increases the size of the change. You may gain some things, and lose other things. Certainly the specialness of being your wife's one and only, will go away, and you will have a grieving process for that loss. But there is much to be gained from polyamory, you will find that there is an increase of love in your life, for one thing. Here are some resources that could help:
- A Roadmap to Overcoming Insecurities
- Jealousy and Insecurity
- Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, etc.
- How to cope when your partner is with someone else:
- "The Power of Letting Go: how to drop everything that's holding you back" ... a book by John Purkiss.
- "Get Out of Your Own Way: practical lessons for conquering procrastination, fear, envy, neediness, guilt, and more" ... a book by Mark Goulston, M.D., and Philip Goldberg.
As you read and post on our various threads, you will be able to make many friends who are of the poly mindset. You can also message people privately, just hover over their avatar and click on "Start conversation." My inbox is always open.
I'm glad you could join us, and hope you enjoy your stay!
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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