Hi all!
last week I decided to open up my relationship with my fiancée. A year ago we had an argument and she mentioned it then and since it’s been playing on my mind. I found that when I was out, I would find myself looking at other people (not wanting sex with them) but feeling guilty about this. My partner is bisexual and has openly expressed that she misses sex with men and wants to have sex with them as she wants her cake and to eat it to (her words). I’ve found myself completely heartbroken over this. She’s talking to one guy constantly, even when were sat together - is this normal? We’ve set rules and she’s completely transparent as I asked but when she tells me things I feel my gut completely drop and I just want to cry all the time and tell her to stop but I also see how happy she is about this and how different she is. I can’t have sex without feelings and I’m struggling to understand how she can. It’s little things like knowing she’s going out and buying lingerie specifically for him (she said she needs it for herself to feel comfortable). I’m just scared that she’ll develop feelings for him and realise it’s actually a guy she wants to be with and not a girl and I’ll lose her.
She’s the love of my life and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Does it get easier? How can I get over this feeling of dread and worry?
last week I decided to open up my relationship with my fiancée. A year ago we had an argument and she mentioned it then and since it’s been playing on my mind. I found that when I was out, I would find myself looking at other people (not wanting sex with them) but feeling guilty about this. My partner is bisexual and has openly expressed that she misses sex with men and wants to have sex with them as she wants her cake and to eat it to (her words). I’ve found myself completely heartbroken over this. She’s talking to one guy constantly, even when were sat together - is this normal? We’ve set rules and she’s completely transparent as I asked but when she tells me things I feel my gut completely drop and I just want to cry all the time and tell her to stop but I also see how happy she is about this and how different she is. I can’t have sex without feelings and I’m struggling to understand how she can. It’s little things like knowing she’s going out and buying lingerie specifically for him (she said she needs it for herself to feel comfortable). I’m just scared that she’ll develop feelings for him and realise it’s actually a guy she wants to be with and not a girl and I’ll lose her.
She’s the love of my life and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Does it get easier? How can I get over this feeling of dread and worry?