Hi everyone ☺
I've recently started a relationship with a Poly, I've read up and spoken about it all.
We have a extremely close relationship, with strong feelings for each other, we are very open about it all and have amazin communication about either views, thoughts and feelings
Her two other partners, are both very open relationships where anyone are open to do what they wish with whom ever they wish, are long distance so once a month or 2 they met, so in the mean time all are free to do as they wish with whom they wish (protected of course)
I've expressed some concerns that I may not be so open to situations like one night stands and as an scenario: if we were out club bar date party etc together and I left to smoke or bathroom etc and came back and found my partner with somone else I may not be able to process that.
Are all Poly relationships like this, by me saying I don't wish for them to do one night stands or flirt get with others when I am there is that controlling or a boundary that takes away the freedom of Poly? As I have been told that by doing this it not what Poly is about.
The other issue I find, again this is mostly down to myself and my own experiences with past partners that brings insecurities up, is that I tend to find when I have my partners attention I got allot of it, but if somone else is there, they go out with friends family or even stay in with friends or someone round, I then have little to no communication, until they are alone again or I pop into they mind as someone bought me up.
Is this all normal traits off Poly?
I ve read all about relationships in Poly, I have no issues with her partners and understand we share time, maybe as I don't do one night stands I find it harder to process, but I also think well if you have these strong feelings for me then do you not think off me when someone else has your view?
Any advice on this would be grateful
I've recently started a relationship with a Poly, I've read up and spoken about it all.
We have a extremely close relationship, with strong feelings for each other, we are very open about it all and have amazin communication about either views, thoughts and feelings
Her two other partners, are both very open relationships where anyone are open to do what they wish with whom ever they wish, are long distance so once a month or 2 they met, so in the mean time all are free to do as they wish with whom they wish (protected of course)
I've expressed some concerns that I may not be so open to situations like one night stands and as an scenario: if we were out club bar date party etc together and I left to smoke or bathroom etc and came back and found my partner with somone else I may not be able to process that.
Are all Poly relationships like this, by me saying I don't wish for them to do one night stands or flirt get with others when I am there is that controlling or a boundary that takes away the freedom of Poly? As I have been told that by doing this it not what Poly is about.
The other issue I find, again this is mostly down to myself and my own experiences with past partners that brings insecurities up, is that I tend to find when I have my partners attention I got allot of it, but if somone else is there, they go out with friends family or even stay in with friends or someone round, I then have little to no communication, until they are alone again or I pop into they mind as someone bought me up.
Is this all normal traits off Poly?
I ve read all about relationships in Poly, I have no issues with her partners and understand we share time, maybe as I don't do one night stands I find it harder to process, but I also think well if you have these strong feelings for me then do you not think off me when someone else has your view?
Any advice on this would be grateful