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NewChapter

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Hello everyone, I joined the site to make new friends and hear/read about this lifestyle from others. I have a keen interest in this type of relationship.
I am a single female at present, looking to discuss lifestyle (pros and cons), possibly explore at some point.
Apologies if I don't use the correct terminologies, im new, still learning 🙂
 
Greetings NewChapter,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You will be able to make new friends here, just read and post with your thoughts and questions. You will be able to read about this lovestyle from others, just dive right in, and let us know if you have any questions. Poly has many pros and cons, one of the cons is, it can be more complicated than mono, another is, friends and family may reject you if/when they find out. But a pro is, that there is more love to go around, and another is, that it encourages you to communicate more and better, leading to more closeness. Most people who try polyamory feel that it is worth it. Anyway, you'll learn more about polyamory as you explore this site.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
kdt26417 said:
Greetings NewChapter,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You will be able to make new friends here, just read and post with your thoughts and questions. You will be able to read about this lovestyle from others, just dive right in, and let us know if you have any questions. Poly has many pros and cons, one of the cons is, it can be more complicated than mono, another is, friends and family may reject you if/when they find out. But a pro is, that there is more love to go around, and another is, that it encourages you to communicate more and better, leading to more closeness. Most people who try polyamory feel that it is worth it. Anyway, you'll learn more about polyamory as you explore this site.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
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Many thanks Kevin, much appreciated
 
No problem, glad to have you with us.
 
NewChapter said:
Hello everyone, I joined the site to make new friends and hear/read about this lifestyle from others. I have a keen interest in this type of relationship.
I am a single female at present, looking to discuss lifestyle (pros and cons), possibly explore at some point.
Apologies if I don't use the correct terminologies, im new, still learning 🙂
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What’s your age ? Would you be interested in a Black Muslim for polygyny
 
Jamalworld said:
What’s your age ? Would you be interested in a Black Muslim for polygyny
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I'm 49yrs. If I were to consider this way of life it would be the mental and physical connection to the person that attracts me. Personally, ethnicity and religion wouldn't come into it
At present it is just an interest I have but more swayed on the side of polyandry
 
Welcome, New Chapter!

Don’t worry about being ‘still learning,’ as learning is so valuable in successful polyamory. Taking responsibility for a personal practice of good communication, honesty and openness demands a constant learning-reflecting-adjusting-learning-repeat cycle-- well, in my experience, anyway!

Over the decades, we all change in subtle ways, as well as in reaction to life events or upheavals. One key skill needed to maintain a poly relationship (on my part, anyway) is being alert to the subtleties of change in partners and drawing them out into the open. These discussions make us feel seen, strengthen the bonds and trust (even when there are difficulties) and lead to real intimacy.

I see so many marriages that have survived the passage of time, but where the partners don’t really ‘know’ each other deeply anymore, because the nuance of who they are now has been lost. This is where cheating and affairs happen, when the excitement of a new encounter makes one feel ‘seen’ again.

That is why healthy polyamory is so beautiful. It requires hard work, yes; the willingness to be humble, vulnerable and own our emotions; dedication to non-violent communication; and occasional battles with our own insecurities manifesting as jealousy or neediness. But ultimately, it is a wonderful way of being 100% present in the world and in the most exquisite and deepest intimacy with others. This is where joy resides. :D
 
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