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LovelyLady

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Just wondering how everyone feels about pet names. Do you have different pet names for each partner? Would you feel slighted if your love used the same pet name for all partners? What if your metamour started calling your love by the same pet name you have for him, would you find a new name?
 
LovelyLady said:
Just wondering how everyone feels about pet names. Do you have different pet names for each partner? Would you feel slighted if your love used the same pet name for all partners? What if your metamour started calling your love by the same pet name you have for him, would you find a new name?
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When I was dating IV, she called both CV and myself "baby". It was kind of funny, CV and I would be in the living room watching television and IV would yell "Baby!" from the kitchen and we'd both just wait to get some context.

Honestly if there is possessiveness about a pet name I would identify that as a sign that there is some emotional work to be done. If I felt the possessiveness I'd try to work on it, if my partner felt it I'd consider that a gentle warning that there is something I need to keep an eye on.
 
I call DarkKnight by a nickname that plays on his real name, so it's non-transferable. I also call him sweet tits from time to time. Lol PunkRockAwesomesauce I call loverface when I am texting him.
 
I have a name that I only call hubby, because it's silly and based on a past experience. Pretty much everyone else gets called babe, dear, and that kind of thing.
 
Babe, Baby, Sweetie, Hon... I use them all interchangeably for whomever I'm with, it'll just be whatever comes to mind at the time. I wouldn't get bent out of shape if a lover of mine using generic pet names like that for someone else... but how would I know whether he did or not, anyway? It's not the sort of thing I'd ask him - I have more important things to worry about.

If there's a more specific name I used for someone, I probably wouldn't use it on anyone else because its specificity would be meaningful to me only regarding one person (but I can't think of any specific pet names I've called anyone, actually). I would assume the same for my lovers. My STBX used to call me Lucille after Lucille Ball. But I don't think that was exactly a compliment. One guy I dated for a few months always called me Scarlett because he thinks I look like Scarlett Johansson. I don't think I do at all, and I'm like twice her age, but hey, I'll take it, LOL! So, I highly doubt he was calling other women Scarlett, unless he only dates women he thinks look like Scarlett Johansson, but still, I wouldn't care what he calls anyone else. None of my business, really.
 
Sharing pet names amongst other metamour/s would not trouble me as far as I know. Now if I received a pet name like sweet tits I'd be a little embarrassed ... :)

Actually I did have a pet name "incident" one time. Some twelve years ago I had my legal name changed. Then later on, when Snowbunny and I started getting real friendly, she decided to start calling me by my birth name, as a pet name ... which I went along with, but then there was a time a year or two later when I got really mad for some lame reason and decided the pet name was no longer okay.

I regret freaking out at that time, but, I suppose it's for the best that my birth name is now shelved for good. Gosh dang it, I had my name changed for a reason! Respect the reason, I say. [grumble grumble grumble]
 
Sweetie, baby, honey, etc I use with everyone. I have some nicknames/pet names that are partner specific but they wouldn't make sense for anyone else.
 
Do you have different pet names for each partner?
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I'm renown for giving nicknames... some more desirable than others ~grins~

I do have different pet names for each partner. These are based very much on individual contexts, so I don't use them interchangeably. However, I will also call most partners and friends "gorgeous", "darling", etc. My GF and I find the term "baby" quite intimate. She only uses that with myself and her hubby, and I only use it with her and my best friend.

Would you feel slighted if your love used the same pet name for all partners?
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Hmmm... That would probably depend on various factors. For instance, if my partner generally wasn't much of one for attaching meaning to pet names, I wouldn't take it personally. If this had always been the status-quo, I wouldn't take it personally. If, however, my partner took a name she had only ever called me (i.e. it has meaning), and then applied this to someone else, I'd find that a shame.

What if your metamour started calling your love by the same pet name you have for him, would you find a new name?
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That's an interesting question. If the name had a lot of meaning and was quite specific, I'd actually find that intrusive. Honestly? I probably would end up losing enjoyment of using the original name I had chosen.

I should say though - I'm a writer, so words carry a lot of weight and meaning to me. Arguably too damn much. ;) Yes, there have been times that my GF has used terms with her other partners that I have found meaningful between us. I tend to agree with Marcus, though: we can't possess words or terms of affection. I try to let it go when this happens.
 
It's funny you should post this as my Hubby, was telling me the other night that he thinks my Boyfriend needs a pet name. I laughed, but I did agree. I just can't think of one lol! Nothing has stuck yet lol! Well except snuggle monkey, and that is hardly one I can use in conversation lol! Hell I can't even type it without giggling!

Also I call everyone Sugar or Sweety and it doesn't phase anyone. Lol but then I'm a southern girl ;)
 
Ha ha! I don't use sweet tits out in public. And to be honest, I really can't remember why or how it originated and stuck!
 
All my partners and kids have nicknames I call them. With lovers-most people aren't willing to use the names I use for them and it would be bizarre to interchange them as they wouldn't be pertinent to anyone but who I use them with.
 
Heheh ... sweet tits ... heheheh
 
We generally use generic pet names - "Sweetie", "Honey", etc...the boys don't have any pet names specific to me. Sometimes, MrS will call me "Pretty Lady" (from a cartoon clip that we saw together) but I also call Lotus that and wouldn't object to any of the boys using that in reference to either of us.

Dude is actually "Dude" - I started calling him that before we were even together...and it stuck. Now more of a nickname as opposed to a petname...with subsequent additions - Lotus and I will refer to him "Octo-Dude-ing" us, in reference to his overwhelming need for physical contact. (It is occasionally overwhelming...like he has more limbs than humanly possible to touch you with.)

I sometimes "silly-fy" MrS's given name by calling him "firstname-ie" or "firstname-ie-kins" - just to teasingly annoy him:p. And Dude will call him that to get his goat as well :D. I will sometimes address him as "lover-husband" during good-bye kissing time - which, of course, is specific to him.

I should dig up the thread where we discussed calling a lover by the wrong name during sex...apparently I cried out "MrS" during sex for about the first year that I was with Dude. I never noticed...(I can get a little "lost" at peak sexual moments - and a 20-some-year habit is hard to break). It never particularly bothered either of them :rolleyes:.

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It can be confusing, since I tend to use the same ones for my wife and my gf. When we're all together, I try to make clear which of them I'm talking to.
 
LovelyLady said:
Just wondering how everyone feels about pet names. Do you have different pet names for each partner? Would you feel slighted if your love used the same pet name for all partners? What if your metamour started calling your love by the same pet name you have for him, would you find a new name?
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I'm curious why you ask, LovelyLady. I take it your husband's girlfriend has started calling him by a pet name you have for him? Or he's calling you both by the same pet name?
 
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I'm curious why you ask, LovelyLady. I take it your husband's girlfriend has started calling him by a pet name you have for him? Or he's calling you both by the same pet name?
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Actually both. However, I thought it might be a bit lighter/funner topic to discuss. I thought it might be fun to come up with a new pet name for him but it's proving harder than I thought to find something new that rolls off the tongue. I am not, however, asking him to stop calling either of us the same name. It does make me cringe a bit but I'll get over it. Putting it in perspective, a pet name is not on the top of my priority list of concerns.
 
funny, I was thinking about that yesterday. :)

it is quite easy for me because I speak swiss german with my husband, and english with my boyfriend. so the petnames are different anyway.

by the way, I found out that petnames don't have to be special at all. my boyfriend is just melting away when I call him "darling". it might be my accent though. ;)
 
Chops and I have some pretty situation-specific pet names, so I doubt he'd ever use them with anyone else (I know I wouldn't). Things like "Sweetie" and "Hon" are kinda generic from my POV, and I don't care if they get used all over the place. I kinda like using "dahlin'" from time to time, but I think it's because my grandfather used to call all the women that. The dog. ;)
 
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