OK, I did it out of curiosity. I joined tiktok (for work reasons) but then looked up #polyamory after coming across something else* that made me dare to brave the polyamory search. I fairly quickly realized it was probably a very large contributor to the themes in a lot of the new profiles we have here.
The vast majority of tiktoks I saw were FMF triads in their 20s. There were a lot of very attractive young people cohabiting in very nice apartments. I can't help but wonder if there is a media company behind more than one of the accounts...(Am I that cynical?) Probably the most positive message I saw was the Q&A where people ask, "do you get jealous" with the reply "yes, but we talk about it straight away" - so at least there is advocacy for communication.
I saw positive messages about NOT inserting yourself into the other dyad's sexy times but I also saw some unhealthy messages about basically being a completely enmeshed triad rather than simply an enmeshed couple. Polyfi triads generally seemed to reign supreme.
So, you can have a look at tiktok without having an account. You can download the app (then delete it again) for morbid curiosity sake. If anyone already has tiktok or wants to have a peek, please join in this discussion with your impressions of what you see, or if you are a veteran, what you've discovered and if it goes much deeper than what I've seen so far. For me, it was rather eye opening.
*that "something else" was that I was watching a heap of Māori content and there was a GenX Māori woman (who creates cultural education tiktoks) talking about how before colonisation (200 years ago) that Māori were polygamous and polyandrous both for romantic and political reasons.
The vast majority of tiktoks I saw were FMF triads in their 20s. There were a lot of very attractive young people cohabiting in very nice apartments. I can't help but wonder if there is a media company behind more than one of the accounts...(Am I that cynical?) Probably the most positive message I saw was the Q&A where people ask, "do you get jealous" with the reply "yes, but we talk about it straight away" - so at least there is advocacy for communication.
I saw positive messages about NOT inserting yourself into the other dyad's sexy times but I also saw some unhealthy messages about basically being a completely enmeshed triad rather than simply an enmeshed couple. Polyfi triads generally seemed to reign supreme.
So, you can have a look at tiktok without having an account. You can download the app (then delete it again) for morbid curiosity sake. If anyone already has tiktok or wants to have a peek, please join in this discussion with your impressions of what you see, or if you are a veteran, what you've discovered and if it goes much deeper than what I've seen so far. For me, it was rather eye opening.
*that "something else" was that I was watching a heap of Māori content and there was a GenX Māori woman (who creates cultural education tiktoks) talking about how before colonisation (200 years ago) that Māori were polygamous and polyandrous both for romantic and political reasons.