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davidisfun67

davidisfun67

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Hi all, how does one get started in this life style? I am very curious and very open minded to being in a poly relationship or find one who has a poly relationship gong and wants to add another. I feel that this is where I can find love and be able to learn what love is.
 
Hi, we have a wealth of information here about poly principles, foundations, boundaries and the like. You can do a search for any of those terms.

Also, please check out our Golden Nuggets section, here:


There you will find lists of books, articles, and a podcast, even fictional movies centered around poly-type relationships.

There is also a thread which contains consolidated archived former threads on dozens of common poly topics, issues, speedbumps and the like. There is no need to make a million mistakes on your own, and suffer hurt, and hurting partners. Learn from our mistakes and successes! This board has been around since 2009; a lot of people have come before you, and you can stand on our/their shoulders. :)

Is that a pic of you in your profile? You look middle-aged. Do you not know what love is yet?
 
I am in my 50 and have never really been loved, been through 3 divorces and was given up for adoption at birth, my parents didn't know how to show love so I have been looking for it in the wrong people.
 
Hello davidisfun67,

Try a poly-friendly dating site such as OKCupid or Feeld; also there's a chance there's a poly group in your area. Google "Salt Lake City polyamory" and/or "Utah polyamory" and see if anything turns up. Utah is a hard place to do something progressive like poly, but Salt Lake City is somewhat more diverse. Good luck.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
No problem; I hope you find the right woman or couple for you.
 
There seems to have been lots of people on this sight at a time. Now not sure are there still lot of individuals left here
 
We still have quite a few regulars, not to where there's a torrent of posts but who needs that anyway.
 
How does someone like me get to finding others in my area that I can meet and become like you guys. I know I read you where for Utah
 
Go out and meet people in person. Join groups - not specifically poly ones, but ones where you can find shared interests. I swear that for every one poly person somewhere online, there are 100 others just out in your community. Go find people you connect with. You never know who you might meet.
 
I am going to start doing that, I am going to a meet and greet night at a bar. But thank you for all you information and help. It does help having someone who been through polyamory
 
I am curious, are there poly couples that are more then triads or quads ? Or are quads as big most polyamory couples go?
 
davidisfun67 said:
I am curious, are there poly couples that are more then triads or quads ? Or are quads as big most polyamory couples go?
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Large groups where everyone is romantically and sexually involved with each other are extremely rare. Sometimes, if they do exist, they can become toxic or even cult-like.

Plus, desires and loyalties tend to shift. And if a group is living together, people's schedules change, or jobs change and people have to move away, personalities clash, shared interests vary, etc., etc.

By far, the huge majority of poly relationships happen one-on-one. A is dating B. But A is also dating C. And B is also dating D. D is dating B and E. And so on.

In my case, I am dating Pixi and Aries. They are my co-primaries.
Aries is also dating Sophie.
Pixi is also dating Malachi.
Sophie is married to her husband X.
Malachi has not been interested in dating anyone else, so he is monoamorous in practice.
Aries also has a casual "comet" partner, Missy, that he sees occasionally.
Missy has a boyfriend Z that she sees regularly.
 
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