SugarGlider
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My situation is unique but I think this community will help me a lot. I've been in a committed relationship for almost a year, with sex only between my BF and I. However, for most of our relationship I've had a sugar daddy(SD).
He gives me weekly allowances, takes me on dates, and we kiss good night. It's never gone further than that; we have a semi-romantic relationship. I communicate fully with my primary about the things that I do with my SD but it feels like no matter what I do or how I try to communicate, he is simply upset by the relationship I have with my SD.
We've tried to institute normal rules like I have to tell my BF when I make plans to see my SD, and I text him when I get home. Before my BF wanted to know exactly what happened on the dates, as far as kissing and ass-grabbing, but that seemed to make him uncomfortable and upset. I never blow off my BF to meet with my SD even though my BF has asked me to blow off my SD for him (I don't). But it just seems like he's overall uncomfortable with a poly relationship, and I've told him that before. I'll follow rules we set up, but no matter what rules we set, or how I keep him updated on my relationship with my SD, he's unhappy I have another person in my life.
The latest upset with my BF is that I had suggested that when I had gone out shopping with my SD that I pick up a pair of nice headphones for my BF. We ended up shopping but not in the correct store, so I never ended up getting the headphones for him. I text him after the date saying how it went and that unfortunately I didn't get him his headphones. He proceeds to call me a liar saying that that shopping plaza obviously has stores where you can buy them, he can't believe "one pair of headphones is too much to ask for," "this SD thing sucks," and kills me with "are you having sex with him? Did you blow him?"
I've told him multiple times before that his previous partners cheating on him is not an excuse to accuse me of things like that, and that I communicate fully and I'm willing to go through my SD and mine texts with my BF to massage his ego.
I told him that he can't talk to me like that and I know he really just has a problem with the poly relationship. I bought him headphones since he was being a big baby about it and now he's trying to latch onto that like it's the main part of the argument. He wants to pay me back, he wanted to spend my SD's money, not mine. He said I'm worried about trust, but he's worried about teamwork bc I was being selfish by not following through on my word that I would get my SD to buy headphones, and we wouldn't be having this argument if I never suggested I try to buy them for him. But he eventually got headphones, and my point is he is ultimately upset by me having a SD, which he refuses to acknowledge. Every time that I bring up my point he tries to blame something else.
Is there any hope for a normal poly relationship with this guy? At one point during an argument he has told me that no one else was going to put up with a girl that has a sugar daddy, and ik that it's not true and he was just trying to hurt me
He gives me weekly allowances, takes me on dates, and we kiss good night. It's never gone further than that; we have a semi-romantic relationship. I communicate fully with my primary about the things that I do with my SD but it feels like no matter what I do or how I try to communicate, he is simply upset by the relationship I have with my SD.
We've tried to institute normal rules like I have to tell my BF when I make plans to see my SD, and I text him when I get home. Before my BF wanted to know exactly what happened on the dates, as far as kissing and ass-grabbing, but that seemed to make him uncomfortable and upset. I never blow off my BF to meet with my SD even though my BF has asked me to blow off my SD for him (I don't). But it just seems like he's overall uncomfortable with a poly relationship, and I've told him that before. I'll follow rules we set up, but no matter what rules we set, or how I keep him updated on my relationship with my SD, he's unhappy I have another person in my life.
The latest upset with my BF is that I had suggested that when I had gone out shopping with my SD that I pick up a pair of nice headphones for my BF. We ended up shopping but not in the correct store, so I never ended up getting the headphones for him. I text him after the date saying how it went and that unfortunately I didn't get him his headphones. He proceeds to call me a liar saying that that shopping plaza obviously has stores where you can buy them, he can't believe "one pair of headphones is too much to ask for," "this SD thing sucks," and kills me with "are you having sex with him? Did you blow him?"
I've told him multiple times before that his previous partners cheating on him is not an excuse to accuse me of things like that, and that I communicate fully and I'm willing to go through my SD and mine texts with my BF to massage his ego.
I told him that he can't talk to me like that and I know he really just has a problem with the poly relationship. I bought him headphones since he was being a big baby about it and now he's trying to latch onto that like it's the main part of the argument. He wants to pay me back, he wanted to spend my SD's money, not mine. He said I'm worried about trust, but he's worried about teamwork bc I was being selfish by not following through on my word that I would get my SD to buy headphones, and we wouldn't be having this argument if I never suggested I try to buy them for him. But he eventually got headphones, and my point is he is ultimately upset by me having a SD, which he refuses to acknowledge. Every time that I bring up my point he tries to blame something else.
Is there any hope for a normal poly relationship with this guy? At one point during an argument he has told me that no one else was going to put up with a girl that has a sugar daddy, and ik that it's not true and he was just trying to hurt me
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