This is a lot of work. (TP's story, when she feels like updating)

Carma said:
I just found out recently that this is my bf's biggest fear :( (Not his family, specifically, doing the labeling, but society as a whole).

I've caused problems in our V by telling people and having it "travel" accidentally. I want to be honest and I want to be real. I want the ideal. But this world we live in? Ain't no Utopia, is it?

Makes me so sad for you, when things are so good, that you cannot love out loud.
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Just had this conversation. It is sooooo important because this "Ain't no Utopia" just how people- everyone in your life- is introduced to the idea/reality of poly.
Feelin for ya TP!;)
 
Blech. Mr. A just called. His work day has been extended rather significantly to a 14 hour day. It's very likely that he's not making it in tonight.

Goddamn this long distance thing sucks. :(
 
TruckerPete said:
Goddamn this long distance thing sucks. :(
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Having just read your entire blog beginning to end...wow, yeah, that sucks! :(

But you're so resilient and confident, both personally and in your relationships, that I'm sure you'll manage to find time with him one way or another. Just in case, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. :D

And please, when things are going well, pleasepleaseplease KEEP POSTING! The good stuff makes it all seem less impossible! If all I read here was conflict and horribleness, I'd already be skittering back under my monogamy rock.
 
Ivy said:
And please, when things are going well, pleasepleaseplease KEEP POSTING! The good stuff makes it all seem less impossible! If all I read here was conflict and horribleness, I'd already be skittering back under my monogamy rock.
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Monogamy rock ... I have to say I'm a little in love with your sense of humour. :p

Alright, good things, here we go!

Mr. A came down Sunday morning. The three of us went out to brunch. It was yummy! After brunch, we picked out flowers for Indigo's mum for Mother's Day and then he left to drop them off and do some running around. This gave Mr. A and I some alone time, which was of course, appreciated. We spent the rest of the afternoon lazing around, and actually watched The Human Centipede. Dreadful movie! I highly recommend it for bad movie fans.

Indigo and I had to go to a family function that night for his dad's 60th birthday. There was a lot of family there. It was reasonably successful ... only two family members asked if I was pregnant yet! We told them the due date was 2015. Hah. It didn't last as long as we'd thought it would, so we got home with enough time for all of us to watch random crap on Netflix. Good times, good snuggles.

I had taken today off, so Mr. A and I spent a loverly day together. We woke up to fresh made coffee (thank you, Indigo!) and played video games all morning! In the afternoon, we actually went shopping. This is a big deal for me. I found three shirts and a pair of shorts for myself. Mr. A got three shirts and two pairs of pants for himself. We picked up dinner fixings, and I came home and made dinner for the guys. Mmmmm. BBQ!

Mr. A is gone now, and as much as the goodbyes suck, I didn't cry at the end of this one! I'm getting better. :p

For anyone wondering about logistics, when Mr. A comes to visit, he and I sleep on the air mattress in the spare room and Indigo takes our bed. Because we need a new bed, the air mattress is actually much comfier! :p That could also be because there aren't hordes of animals with us, though. Hehehe.

Any who, back to work tomorrow. I'm feeling very content right now.
 
Monogamy rock...does that mean if you are monogamous you are stuck between a rock and a hard, er place?! LOL!:p

Good for you TP. So glad it was a good weekend for you. Time management is a skill. Hope the LDR gets easier. A man that has coffee ready for ya at wake up is aces in my book! Excellent Indigo!:D
 
Another wonderful weekend. Mr. A came up to visit. I love having him here. I am so motivated to do things when both men are in the house. Far more than I am for either one of them alone. Weird, eh?

Indigo made a hair appointment for me yesterday, so I could feel nice and pretty for Mr. A. It was really thoughtful. And Mr. A quite enjoyed my new haircut!

I'm also having more feelings for Rowsdower. Not sure if I can quantify it - more than a month ago, less than in loooooove. The guys are both supportive. Since I'm not asking for any changes in terms of time spent with Rowsdower or anything like that it doesn't affect them, but of course they still need to know.

So that's really it for me. Nothing earth shattering here. Just life as usual!
 
TruckerPete said:
Another wonderful weekend. Mr. A came up to visit. I love having him here. I am so motivated to do things when both men are in the house. Far more than I am for either one of them alone. Weird, eh?
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NOT WEIRD! I actually fantasize about this! I so wish that was my situation. Sounds like fun, satisfaction, accomplishment and perfection.
Also why I envy RP!!!
 
Scared shitless

Mr. A is basically "on call" at work for the foreseeable future. There are not enough hours to keep him employed in a putting food in his belly and paying his rent kind of way. They will call when there's work.

He had thought to apply for jobs in his field everywhere. And I mean everywhere. Remote places. I asked him some tough questions. Namely, if he was going down this path purely because he didn't know what else to do. Turns out the answer was kind of a yes.

The compromise is to apply for jobs in his field within about a 2 hour radius of where I live. And to apply (with assistance from Indigo and me) for jobs that aren't in his field in the same city as me.

Indigo didn't hesitate to offer the spare room to Mr. A.

All I can think is "Holy fuck. There is a very real chance my boyfriend might move in in the next few months." It's a little exciting. It's mostly terrifying. What if the whole thing blows up?? But maybe it won't? I have to try. This is, after all, what I think I want in life.

But hey, maybe he'll get a job in his field and it won't happen. Maybe he won't have to give up his dream after all.
 
TruckerPete said:
Another wonderful weekend. Mr. A came up to visit. I love having him here. I am so motivated to do things when both men are in the house. Far more than I am for either one of them alone. Weird, eh?
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Hey, the same thing happened to me yesterday when my fiance and my (brand new) interest were hanging out with me at home. I actually got all the laundry done, for once. Go figure!
 
So I might be getting a little brother??

AWESOME
 
TruckerPete said:
Indigo didn't hesitate to offer the spare room to Mr. A.

All I can think is "Holy fuck. There is a very real chance my boyfriend might move in in the next few months." It's a little exciting. It's mostly terrifying. What if the whole thing blows up?? But maybe it won't? I have to try. This is, after all, what I think I want in life.
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WOW! Exhilaration times one hundred!

I remember the night before my husband moved in with me before we were engaged. I was bouncing off the walls (almost literally), couldn't sleep, hardly ate, the adrenaline was racing. It was the thing I wanted most,, could not believe he wanted it too, and alternated between being amazed and terrified it was happening, and almost hoping it wouldn't.

Well, no need to jump to conclusions yet. But embracing change is a good thing! It is obvious that you have the most awesome supportive partner in Indigo AND also that you have have something solid with Mr. A. no matter if he winds up far away or moves in with you.

Woo-hoo, what a wild ride!
 
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