Torn about partner travelling overseas with other partner

Magdlyn said:
I'm not sure why you're hammering this point home. This couple and his OSO can decide if they want to plan phone calls or not.

Vacations are about quality time. Most of us encourage poly couples to leave their phones off during quality time, and make/take calls and texts only when it doesn't interrupt that time.
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Exactly. I know he will be focussed on the quality time with me there, and will pop off on occasion when it's our down time to call her. I'm totally cool with that. I will likely take that time, if chilling at the Air BNB, to message some of my family/friends, post some photos, etc. I have made peace with this arrangement :) He and I are in a very solid, very connected and happy place, and I know his level of commitment to me, and to us. I am feeling quite happy about things overall. We have come a long way in the last few months and are working together really well now.
 
Magdlyn said:
I'm not sure why you're hammering this point home. This couple and his OSO can decide if they want to plan phone calls or not.

Vacations are about quality time. Most of us encourage poly couples to leave their phones off during quality time, and make/take calls and texts only when it doesn't interrupt that time.
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That's not different to what I'm saying. I can just see how it's going to be a whole thing when it occurs. Maybe I'm cynical.
 
SEASONEDpolyAgain said:
That's not different to what I'm saying. I can just see how it's going to be a whole thing when it occurs. Maybe I'm cynical.
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"it's going to be a whole thing when it occurs"? Can you see the future? ;-)
If I've accepted that this is how things are to be, then why fuss?
As I said, I came on to update, not to have everything analyzed and challenged. It was an update, that's all. Not feeling welcome now to update with such a negative/challenging response as you posted, when I wasn't asking for advice or debate on this. Was updating in the spirit of "since you all followed this over the many months with me, thought I'd let you know how things are on the cusp of our trip.". That's all.
 
Hi WestCoastRedhead,

Thanks for updating us on your situation, I hear great things about Costa Rica and I think you will have a great time. As for your arrangements for keeping in touch, they sound fine to me, I know there's been some friction amongst the three of you, so it is pretty remarkable that you were able to come to an agreement. Anyway, have fun on your trip!

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
kdt26417 said:
Hi WestCoastRedhead,

Thanks for updating us on your situation, I hear great things about Costa Rica and I think you will have a great time. As for your arrangements for keeping in touch, they sound fine to me, I know there's been some friction amongst the three of you, so it is pretty remarkable that you were able to come to an agreement. Anyway, have fun on your trip!

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
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Thanks Kevin! Yes, I'm feeling pretty positive and excited. Will let you all know how it goes! :-D
 
Hello all,

I'm back from our two week getaway to Costa Rica. What a gorgeous country, and what amazing people!

So, a quick update: the phone calls from my meta to our shared partner Pisces didn't end up happening. She ended up saying she'd ask if she need a call, but didn't ask for one the entire time we were away. The only time they spoke was when Pisces had to call her to pop by his condo to fix something the Strata needed done. I was surprised by this, but pleased.

If only the actual relationship stuff between Pisces and I had been as easy/smooth... sigh. But that's another issue. As they say, travel can definitely be a test for a relationship...

Overall I'm glad with how the travel went. Still trying to decide if my guy is someone I want to travel with regularly. I suspect it would make sense to have a handful of trusted travel companions to choose from.
 
It sounds like you had a good time, not perfect, but good overall. Thanks for that update.
 
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