What cert? Does your work have leeway for a retest.
For the highly technical certs like ocda and Ocsp we allow 3 tries for example
Trying out a triad
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For the highly technical certs like ocda and Ocsp we allow 3 tries for example
SquishyHusk
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There are eight certifications that I'm expected to hold ranging from technical to accounting to business. I'm allowed to retest as many times as they will let me get away with missing my personal KPIs at my performance reviews. I'm only reimbursed for the first attempt and the tests average $300 per attempt.
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Went to a wedding yesterday for Cookie's cousin. People were gossiping about a certain couple that was there - because after the groom's parents separated, the groom's father lived with this family for a time and it was rumored that they would all share a bed sometimes. Many people that were there know that Pumpkin lives with us - I wonder if anything clicked for them? No one said anything.
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Cookie and Pumpkin are going away for the weekend with Cookie's cousin to stay at her cottage. They deserve a break and I hope they come back refreshed with their emotional batteries recharged, but it's tough being the one left behind.
Albert Ross
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Bachelor weekend? Beers in the hot tub? 
SquishyHusk
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I've been to so many parties this summer, and had so much to eat and drink, that I've noticed my pants getting a little tight. I've sworn off excess calories until I get back in shape - and sadly, that means beer is out for now.Bachelor weekend? Beers in the hot tub?
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Cookie and Pumpkin were away for a few days with Leslie's (Cookie's cousin) at her lake cottage for a girls retreat.
For my birthday Cookie, Pupkin, the kid, and I went out to eat. The girls put on matching outfits for bed which I guess was meant as a gift to me. I do like when they wear matching outfits, but I think they like it just as much as I do, so it feels like more of a group gift? I had said a few days before what I would like - specifically being in the middle, getting a lot of kissing and caressing - but we ended up doing what we always do - the girls kiss, while I pleasure them from behind. I received very few kisses, and only from Cookie. Maybe I should have asserted myself more, but I don't want to spoil the mood - and I don't want them to do things because I ask, I want them to do things because they want to do it.
I've tried to talk to them about it, but Pumpkin never says anything and Cookie points out that I always have a good time. It's true that the sex feels really good, but without the emotional connection, it feels hollow. I need eye contact and kissing to feel connected on an emotional level. Pumpkin says we will get there, but it takes times and we are all working on things. Cookie and Pumpkin have a friendship going back years, so it might be true that Pumpkin takes a long time to open up to people.
Cookie points out to me that I enjoy sex with Pumpkin more than I do with her. I think it hurts her, but she does well with replacing that feeling with positive feelings about seeing the two people that she loves having such a good time. I find Cookie much more attractive than I do Pumpkin - she is my type, my dream girl - plus we have the bond of all the years together. So why do I enjoy Pumpkin more, when she is not really my type? Is it still NRE? Just because it's someone different? It's not just me, Cookie also seems to have her best organsms with Pumpkin. They tell me that it's because I've primed the pump.
It occured to me as I was typing this out that maybe the lack of connection between Pumpkin and myself is her attempt to protect Cookie's feelings? Because Cookie might feel threatened? That seems silly, but feelings don't have to make sense.
For my birthday Cookie, Pupkin, the kid, and I went out to eat. The girls put on matching outfits for bed which I guess was meant as a gift to me. I do like when they wear matching outfits, but I think they like it just as much as I do, so it feels like more of a group gift? I had said a few days before what I would like - specifically being in the middle, getting a lot of kissing and caressing - but we ended up doing what we always do - the girls kiss, while I pleasure them from behind. I received very few kisses, and only from Cookie. Maybe I should have asserted myself more, but I don't want to spoil the mood - and I don't want them to do things because I ask, I want them to do things because they want to do it.
I've tried to talk to them about it, but Pumpkin never says anything and Cookie points out that I always have a good time. It's true that the sex feels really good, but without the emotional connection, it feels hollow. I need eye contact and kissing to feel connected on an emotional level. Pumpkin says we will get there, but it takes times and we are all working on things. Cookie and Pumpkin have a friendship going back years, so it might be true that Pumpkin takes a long time to open up to people.
Cookie points out to me that I enjoy sex with Pumpkin more than I do with her. I think it hurts her, but she does well with replacing that feeling with positive feelings about seeing the two people that she loves having such a good time. I find Cookie much more attractive than I do Pumpkin - she is my type, my dream girl - plus we have the bond of all the years together. So why do I enjoy Pumpkin more, when she is not really my type? Is it still NRE? Just because it's someone different? It's not just me, Cookie also seems to have her best organsms with Pumpkin. They tell me that it's because I've primed the pump.
It occured to me as I was typing this out that maybe the lack of connection between Pumpkin and myself is her attempt to protect Cookie's feelings? Because Cookie might feel threatened? That seems silly, but feelings don't have to make sense.
I saw on another thread where you said you never get to have one-on-one sex with Cookie anymore. Is that true? It has to be threeways or nothing? Can you not ask for what you want and have your request granted?
I'm sorry, but it seems like the women are using you as a stunt cock. And you say you want a certain kind of intimacy, and they blow you off. Pumpkin says nothing, Cookie says, "But you always have a good time." Sure, you have a good orgasm, but you can't tell Cookie you want quiet loving kissing connection with just her, alone, sometimes? Can you get her alone and just ask for that? It's between you two. She doesn't need Pumpkin's permission to kiss and have one-on-one sex with her own husband, does she?
Yeah, the matching outfits were something the girls cooked up for themselves, for their own fun. Pfft. You didn't get to be the center of attention in your birthday threeway either. Ugh!
I'm sorry, but it seems like the women are using you as a stunt cock. And you say you want a certain kind of intimacy, and they blow you off. Pumpkin says nothing, Cookie says, "But you always have a good time." Sure, you have a good orgasm, but you can't tell Cookie you want quiet loving kissing connection with just her, alone, sometimes? Can you get her alone and just ask for that? It's between you two. She doesn't need Pumpkin's permission to kiss and have one-on-one sex with her own husband, does she?
Yeah, the matching outfits were something the girls cooked up for themselves, for their own fun. Pfft. You didn't get to be the center of attention in your birthday threeway either. Ugh!
SquishyHusk
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I found some of Pumpkin's old modeling photos when she had long hair. This was before her marriage ended. Since then, she had kept her hair short and shaves half her head. It's like she decided to reject the image of conventional beauty in reaction. She is still beautiful - gets her hair and nails done every week - still wears nice dresses and does her makeup - but chooses to rebel a bit with her hairstyle.
Contrast this with Cookie, who never wears makeup or fashionable dresses unless it's a big occasion. This is something that made me fall for her - I wanted a girl that would go backpacking with me and not worry about sleeping on the ground. Not worry about her nails while scaling a rock face. But now that she has girlfriend to help her do her hair, she has grown it out and it's almost always styled in a very attractive way. I like it.
Cookie and Pumpkin are not names I gave them - those are the pet names they have for each other. On this message board I picked the name Squishy Husk for myself when I signed up. Squishy, because with age and the demands of my job, I've lost a lot of the strength and lean definition I once had and have been getting a little soft and plump. Husk because when I signed up, I was feeling quite empty inside.
Contrast this with Cookie, who never wears makeup or fashionable dresses unless it's a big occasion. This is something that made me fall for her - I wanted a girl that would go backpacking with me and not worry about sleeping on the ground. Not worry about her nails while scaling a rock face. But now that she has girlfriend to help her do her hair, she has grown it out and it's almost always styled in a very attractive way. I like it.
Cookie and Pumpkin are not names I gave them - those are the pet names they have for each other. On this message board I picked the name Squishy Husk for myself when I signed up. Squishy, because with age and the demands of my job, I've lost a lot of the strength and lean definition I once had and have been getting a little soft and plump. Husk because when I signed up, I was feeling quite empty inside.
Albert Ross
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How's that going, mate? I'm hoping you're on the road to eventually being SquishyVibrant.
SquishyHusk
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The quick summary is that I am doing my best to focus on how much better day-to-day life is with another "wife & mom" helping. I still feel sad that the "wives" enjoy a closeness that leaves me feeling like a third wheel.
SquishyHusk
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Cookie got up early this morning, so I had a chance to roll over snuggle with Pumpkin. It felt good. It is rare that we get to snuggle as a pair.
She seems to enjoy snuggling with me, but she never initiates any more. She was always so much more flirty and forward when we started - back when she was just my wife's friend. I wonder if she came onto me so much more in the beginning because at the time, Cookie was taking things slow because it was her first time with a woman, while I was a much easier to get in bed. To put it simply, she was looking to get off, and I knew how to do it - but when Cookie learned how to get her off, I wasn't necessary. Maybe that's just negative thinking.
Anyway, I think Pumpkin enjoyed snuggling, but I still haven't learned to read her moods. She still keeps her walls up with me. Cookie says Pumpkin even keeps walls up with her sometimes. I wish Pumpkin could feel safe enough here to relax her defenses. It's hard for me to feel close to her when I can't read her. And the way my mind works, I tend to think it's something wrong with me when she is acting distant even when told it has nothing to do with me. I wish I could hug and kiss her more, but the kid is always around so I have to sneak in quick squeezes when the kid is looking away. Somehow, the kid has still not clued in that Pumpkin sleeps in the master bedroom with us.
Interestingly, Pumpkin's mom sent the kid a card. I wonder if she is starting to see the kid as the grandkid she thought she'd never have. Pumpkin is an only child and instead of being the bows and lace girly-girl her mom wanted, she's a tattooed lesbian that swore to never have kids. Pumpkin is fantastic with kids - she just doesn't want any of her own.
She seems to enjoy snuggling with me, but she never initiates any more. She was always so much more flirty and forward when we started - back when she was just my wife's friend. I wonder if she came onto me so much more in the beginning because at the time, Cookie was taking things slow because it was her first time with a woman, while I was a much easier to get in bed. To put it simply, she was looking to get off, and I knew how to do it - but when Cookie learned how to get her off, I wasn't necessary. Maybe that's just negative thinking.
Anyway, I think Pumpkin enjoyed snuggling, but I still haven't learned to read her moods. She still keeps her walls up with me. Cookie says Pumpkin even keeps walls up with her sometimes. I wish Pumpkin could feel safe enough here to relax her defenses. It's hard for me to feel close to her when I can't read her. And the way my mind works, I tend to think it's something wrong with me when she is acting distant even when told it has nothing to do with me. I wish I could hug and kiss her more, but the kid is always around so I have to sneak in quick squeezes when the kid is looking away. Somehow, the kid has still not clued in that Pumpkin sleeps in the master bedroom with us.
Interestingly, Pumpkin's mom sent the kid a card. I wonder if she is starting to see the kid as the grandkid she thought she'd never have. Pumpkin is an only child and instead of being the bows and lace girly-girl her mom wanted, she's a tattooed lesbian that swore to never have kids. Pumpkin is fantastic with kids - she just doesn't want any of her own.
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Cookie, Pumpkin, and I were looking at mattresses. It was amusing to see the saleswoman realize we were talking about a mattress for three people. My favorite moment was when she just swung her finger around in a circle indicating all of us.
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Pumpkin's mom continues to refuse to acknowledge the status of our relationship, yet by all appearances is treating my kid like a granddaughter. It is making Pumpkin crazy.