Trying out a triad

I have thoughts about this, but I don't want to presume to put them in your blog thread. Would you like to hear what an outsider sees in this situation? Feel free to say no.
 
I have thoughts about this, but I don't want to presume to put them in your blog thread. Would you like to hear what an outsider sees in this situation? Feel free to say no.

I am always open to hear advice.
 
We all went camping over the weekend. It was Pumpkin's first time camping, and I don't think she enjoyed it much. I think going on a cruise is more to her liking. For me, sitting in the woods staring at a campfire and doing absolutely nothing is exactly what my psyche needs. I get that it is not everyone's idea of a good time.
 
Cookie introduced Pumpkin as her girlfriend when they ran into a friend while out shopping. That was the first time she admitted her new 'situation' to anyone.
 
I tried moving my HF antenna to make it easier to mow around, but ended up wrecking my SWR. A work in progress.
Despite the heat, I baked a few loaves of bread. I need the practice for the county fair.
Pumpkin had a horse show today and took grand champion. It was great to see her smile. She looks really sexy in her riding clothes.
 
Had a nice "cuddle puddle" this morning just snuggling in bed for a bit. It's rare that someone doesn't have to get up early and rush off. The girls were teasing me for being "white bread" because I had always been conservative and traditional. I had to remind Cookie that she was just as "white bread" as me until Pumpkin started showing her a new part of herself.
I never realized how many of our friends were into things like poly, swinging, BDSM, and stuff until Pumpkin started naming people in the area that she had seen on certain dating apps. There is one couple that are very close friends - that we have known for over 15 years - that are swingers. I never had a clue. Now I wonder if they know what is going on with us. If Pumpkin knows them from a certain app, they must know her - and knowing that, do they suspect our relationship?
Sometimes I wish someone would come out and ask what is going on, because I'd love to have someone to talk to. I don't tell anyone because #1 it's not really anyone's business what I do in the privacy of my own home, and #2 it's up to Cookie to decide when she is comfortable "coming out" as bi, but if someone asked me directly, and I knew they'd be understanding, I'd tell them the truth.
 
Had a nice "cuddle puddle" this morning just snuggling in bed for a bit. It's rare that someone doesn't have to get up early and rush off. The girls were teasing me for being "white bread" because I had always been conservative and traditional. I had to remind Cookie that she was just as "white bread" as me until Pumpkin started showing her a new part of herself.
I never realized how many of our friends were into things like poly, swinging, BDSM, and stuff until Pumpkin started naming people in the area that she had seen on certain dating apps. There is one couple that are very close friends - that we have known for over 15 years - that are swingers. I never had a clue. Now I wonder if they know what is going on with us. If Pumpkin knows them from a certain app, they must know her - and knowing that, do they suspect our relationship?
You could ask Pumpkin.
Sometimes I wish someone would come out and ask what is going on, because I'd love to have someone to talk to. I don't tell anyone because #1 it's not really anyone's business what I do in the privacy of my own home, and #2 it's up to Cookie to decide when she is comfortable "coming out" as bi, but if someone asked me directly, and I knew they'd be understanding, I'd tell them the truth.
You could ask Cookie if she'd be comfortable coming out to that swinger couple, at least.
 
You could ask Pumpkin.
She doesn't know - they haven't said or done anything that would indicate they have any suspicions. Pumpkin would never ask because she is very sensitive about "outing" anyone due to her own trauma "coming out".
You could ask Cookie if she'd be comfortable coming out to that swinger couple, at least.
She is not. She is not comfortable discussing our bedroom affairs with anyone. She did introduce Pumpkin as her girlfriend to a friend that saw them out together, which was a big step.
 
Having a weekend away at a B&B with Cookie while Pumpkin manages the kid. Today is "Family Fun Day" with the extended family, so that will help keep the kid occupied. I reminded Pumpkin that she is family so she is required to have fun because it's in the name. Cookie's family is a little upset that we won't be at the family get together, but we had planned this get away back in January and it's not our fault they decided this weekend was the best time for everyone else.
Cookie mentioned that Pumpkin acts the same way when Cookie and I go away together as I act when Cookie and Pumpkin go away together - a little bit distant.
 
Pumpkin was looking really good in a tank top and little cutoff shorts, and she knew it. I was sitting on the couch reading a book and I noticed that she found a lot of things to pick up on the floor in front of me, that she was only bending over at the waist, and that picking things up required a little butt wiggle. The innocent teasing really boosted my mood. I struggle with feeling like a third wheel, and for her to flirt with me helps squash that feeling. And I'm sure she enjoys feeling attractive and seeing the effect that she has on me. Cookie once told me that Pumpkin's ex would not let her wear tight or revealing clothes and one of the things that Pumpkin loves about us is that we have never told her what to wear or shamed her for wearing something revealing.
 
As it gets closer to the anniversary of my wife dropping the bomb, I find myself thinking back to the first steps. I wish things had moved a bit slower. I really enjoyed those nervous moments like just gazing into Pumpkin's eyes when we just at the talking stage. The times we would make out on the couch, knowing it wasn't going to go any further (yet). How exciting it was to talk about it with Cookie. How relieved she was that I was willing.
There were a lot of tough times for me, but I'm choosing to focus on all of the wonderful moments.
 
Cookie and Pumpkin are wearing matching sundresses. They are so cute together.
 
I'm leaving in the morning on another business trip. I'm not looking forward to an eight hour flight, but that's the job.
Pumpkin is out tonight with old friends. I'm glad she is spending some time with friends because I think she has fallen out of touch with them since she moved in with us.
 
Pumpkin told me that one of her friends (let's call her Barb) said I was "hot" which is a nice ego boost for me.
We think that Barb might have put 2 and 2 together and figured out it equals 3 😅
 
I'm thinking back to one year ago, before Cookie had dropped the bomb. The way Pumpkin started acting different. I was oblivious at the time, but Cookie must have started giving indications that a relationship was possible. I think that Pumpkin had a crush on Cookie going back for years, but thought she was stuck in the friend zone. After all, Cookie was married - to a man! How exciting it must have been to see the possibility start to open up. But it must have also been hard to worry about getting her hopes up too high.
Pumpkin had started flirting with me and making suggestive comments - right in front of my wife! Who would laugh about it! I thought they were just teasing me and making jokes. I had no clue they were being serious. Even when Pumpkin asked if I wanted a threesome, I took it as a joke. It wasn't until Cookie took me out for my birthday, waited until I'd had a few drinks, and nervously asked I'd be willing, that I realized it wasn't a joke. It would have made quite the birthday present! But it took me a few months before I was ready. It was a big shift.
 
Pumpkin made one of my favorite dinners and Cookie's cousin joined us for dinner. She is living out her 'ho' phase after getting divorced and I find her dating stories entertaining.
 
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As it gets closer to the anniversary of my wife dropping the bomb, I find myself thinking back to the first steps. I wish things had moved a bit slower. I really enjoyed those nervous moments like just gazing into Pumpkin's eyes when we just at the talking stage. The times we would make out on the couch, knowing it wasn't going to go any further (yet). How exciting it was to talk about it with Cookie. How relieved she was that I was willing.
There were a lot of tough times for me, but I'm choosing to focus on all of the wonderful moments.
You've come a long way in a year!
 
Cookie and Pumpkin are going to a concert tonight. Country music 🤠(n) not my taste. I don't enjoy crowds and noise either, so I'm happy to be staying home.
 
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