Vancouver with love

[wildstallion]

Hey everyone,

My wife and I have been in the scene for years. We now have two little ones, but we are still sexy at our core.

We live in the suburbs of Vancouver BC. I just saw this site and thought I'd try and see if any like-minded people would like to meet and have fun.
We try to be athletic and enjoy healthy eating, but the best exercise is a fantastic sexual experience. We like full swap and she likes to kiss women. We're pretty straight, but still really fun.

Hope this helps us get back into the swing of things. Cheers.

 

[Evie]

Hi and welcome to polyamory.com.

Your post seems to be seeking swingers. Although there is some overlap sometimes, we recently actually had a thread about the differences between polyamory and swinging. You can read it here: https://polyamory.com/threads/swinging.156036/

To find local swingers parties, you might find the events listings on Fetlife helpful.

All the best,
Evie

 

[wildstallion]

Hi and welcome to polyamory.com.

Your post seems to be seeking swingers. Although there is some overlap sometimes, we recently actually had a thread about the differences between polyamory and swinging. You can read it here: https://polyamory.com/threads/swinging.156036/

To find local swingers parties, you might find the events listings on Fetlife helpful.

All the best,
Evie

Hey Evie,

Thanks for the tips.

The line between swingers and poly is really thin. We have a female friend whom we both love. When she comes to visit we have fun. We are open and try to be inclusive. I don't think we really fall under any actual label. We find it very hard to find like-minded people who want to fulfill each other's want and hearts.

I think of swinging as sort of like the dating and the poly sort of the love afterwards. Actually, I don't like either label and would rather just consider us as open.

I will check out Fetlife, but would also like to post here. Cheers.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings wildstallion,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you have a really nice open setup, I hope you find some like-minded individuals who will want to share your open relationship with you. I am in a closed MFM V, but if there are any questions I can answer just let me know. Glad to have you with us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Magdlyn]

Hey Evie,

Thanks for the tips.

The line between swingers and poly is really thin. We have a female friend whom we both love. When she comes to visit we have fun. We are open and try to be inclusive. I don't think we really fall under any actual label. We find it very hard to find like-minded people who want to fulfill each other's want and hearts.

I think of swinging as sort of like the dating, and the poly sort of the love afterwards. Actually, I don't like either label and would rather just consider us as open.

I will check out Fetlife, but would also like to post here. Cheers.

Polyamory means many loves. Swingers have sex with others. Usually it's kept more or less casual, on purpose, as the original couple doesn't want their sex partners to become full-on lovers, partners, with all that entails. It sounds like you want to start new relationships with threesome sex first, and see where things go from there. It's fairly easy to find casual sex in swinger circles. It's harder to find someone to love. Deep love, not just new relationship energy, and fun times, and good sex. Real love takes time to develop. You want someone who's here for a long time, not just a good time.

It's good to be really clear with potential dating partners about what you plan to offer to them, long term. If they're just a fun side piece to spice up your marriage, that's entirely different from someone who wants a long-term and fairly equal relationship. Also, in polyamory, the famous unicorn generally has little power or control in a threeway relationship. That is why prescribed triads rarely work out long term, usually fizzling after a few weeks, months or two years, tops.

It's good you have an out-of-town gf who is fun to hang out with and have sex with from time to time, but it sounds like you want someone local, who will have deeper relationships with both of you.

You could try reading the book Opening Up to get clearer on what kind of relationships you/your wife can offer to anyone. (Remember, each of you will have your own relationship with her.) This book addresses three categories of ENM: swinging, open relationships and polyamory. It's based on interviews with dozens of practitioners of ENM.

Polyamory is not "a scene," or "the lifestyle." It's a love style. It is actually quite different from swinging.

 

[ref2018]

Hey everyone,

My wife and I have been in the scene for years. We now have two little ones, but we are still sexy at our core.

We live in the suburbs of Vancouver BC. I just saw this site and thought I'd try and see if any like-minded people would like to meet and have fun.
We try to be athletic and enjoy healthy eating, but the best exercise is a fantastic sexual experience. We like full swap and she likes to kiss women. We're pretty straight, but still really fun.

Hope this helps us get back into the swing of things. Cheers.

According to this post, the following forum might be a better fit for finding like-minded people to swing with: https://www.swingersboard.com/

This forum is primarily for the discussion of topics related to polyamory. We do have a "Dating and Friendships" section for people to post their personal ads, but we have no data on how much success people have had there. You're welcome to give it a try, and you're also welcome to stay and participate in discussions. I just didn't get the impression from your initial post that that was what you came here for.