Hello everyone, my wife and I are in our early 40’s and have been married for 15 years and together for 21 years. We are truly best friends and have always had an amazing bond/relationship. We have been around the swinging lifestyle for many years but for most of those years we didn’t play with others. We would go to party’s and dance/flirt with other couples and take that sexual energy home. Along the way... we have cultivated an amazing group of very close friends that are either in the lifestyle or lifestyle friendly. About two years ago we started playing with a few people... it was fun and exciting for both of us and realized that it was just sex. Before we started playing with others we were so afraid it was going to lead down this dark road that could destroy our relationship... thankfully it didn’t and we had a few great experiences. One of the very few couples we played with (we call them the 4some) are in a poly relationship. I always found it strange how many of our swinger friends would shun the 4some. Saying things like... they are doing it wrong and how they don’t really love their spouses. Our response was always... why do you care? They are all happy. Of course while having sex with another person could lead to feelings, I never thought it would or could happen to us... well about a year ago we meet a couple at a friends pool party. I’ll just call them s&s. S&s were brand new to the lifestyle and were treading lightly. We invited them to a few of our house party’s and eventually they integrated with our group of close friends. We really liked them both from the start, both Attractive and genuine people. The physical attraction between the four of us was obvious. After hanging out with them many times we started having sex with them and it was very clear that my wife and the husband were crushing on each other... I thought it was really cute but for some reason I wasn’t feeling the same emotional connections with the wife. Fast forward a few months and now I’m starting to get closer and closer with the wife and now we are all seeing each other on a weekly basis. I would say that we are in love with s&s but if we keep down this path it could definitely happen. I feel like we’re organically getting into a polyamorous relationship with this couple. I say organically because it was completely unintentional. Has anyone here ever had this happen to them? I don’t know if I should nurture this relationship or stomp on the breaks.I do think our new found relationship with s&s is beautiful and we are both enjoying it immensely.... this is definitely uncharted waters for us and I don’t want to go down a path where my wife and I are going to get into trouble with our Marriage. How do some of you Separate feelings between your married partner and the ones you were seeing?