mountaingirl
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Hey all
I was in my really good friend from high school's wedding this past week. She is really happy which was awesome and it was great to see her; covid kept us from making plans for the last couple years.
I'm writing about it here because it made me feel lots of feelings. There was a girl there I used to be friends with, who didn't respect my relationship with both my husband and boyfriend once I came out to her. I thought I was over it, but listening to her talk about my friend and her fiance and how great they were for each other made me sick inside. I realized she would have been a good friend to me, too, if she respected either of my partners or myself.
My husband also did not receive an invite to the wedding which sucked. My friend kept it to only people in committed relationships (I would think 3 years and a marriage would constitute as that?), but I saw so many people there with partners they were not married to. I have learned at this point to just chock behavior like this up to me and my husbands relationship not being taken seriously.
The ceremony was awesome, they were both surrounded by their family members and close friends. I would love to be able to do something like that with our families... but I'm pretty certain that will never be possible. I have accepted a lot about polyamory: being secretive about my relationships, not being as close with my boyfriend's family as I would like, at times lying to my family when they ask pointed questions. It just weighed on me a lot this past week. Saying things are unfair is probably the most childish thing to do, but sometimes it feels that way. The price of having this much love in my life + living it the way I want is losing people, I guess. I am thankful for that; at least it has forced me to give less of a shit what other people think. There are times when it feels lonely, and I'm thankful to have two people in my life who understand, + this forum helps a lot
I was in my really good friend from high school's wedding this past week. She is really happy which was awesome and it was great to see her; covid kept us from making plans for the last couple years.
I'm writing about it here because it made me feel lots of feelings. There was a girl there I used to be friends with, who didn't respect my relationship with both my husband and boyfriend once I came out to her. I thought I was over it, but listening to her talk about my friend and her fiance and how great they were for each other made me sick inside. I realized she would have been a good friend to me, too, if she respected either of my partners or myself.
My husband also did not receive an invite to the wedding which sucked. My friend kept it to only people in committed relationships (I would think 3 years and a marriage would constitute as that?), but I saw so many people there with partners they were not married to. I have learned at this point to just chock behavior like this up to me and my husbands relationship not being taken seriously.
The ceremony was awesome, they were both surrounded by their family members and close friends. I would love to be able to do something like that with our families... but I'm pretty certain that will never be possible. I have accepted a lot about polyamory: being secretive about my relationships, not being as close with my boyfriend's family as I would like, at times lying to my family when they ask pointed questions. It just weighed on me a lot this past week. Saying things are unfair is probably the most childish thing to do, but sometimes it feels that way. The price of having this much love in my life + living it the way I want is losing people, I guess. I am thankful for that; at least it has forced me to give less of a shit what other people think. There are times when it feels lonely, and I'm thankful to have two people in my life who understand, + this forum helps a lot