SquishyHusk
Active member
My wife and I have been married 20 years. We have a special needs child that has put a lot of strain on our relationship. Lately my job has required a lot of travel - one to two weeks out of every month. Childcare was more than wife could handle alone, so her friend started sleeping over.
I wasn't too concerned. I was sure my wife was straight. Then one day she asks if I'd like a threesome. I was shocked, but also intrigued. We started talking about it.
Friend wants Wife. Wife is curious to try, but says I come first. I am attracted to Friend, no problem there. Friend claims that I turn her on. I worry she only says that to get into a relationship with Wife, but if so, she's a great actor.
Wife does not know if she will be able to have a physical relationship with a woman. She's never tried. They have a very strong emotional connection, to the point I feel jealous sometimes of how close they are.
I do like having the friend in the home. She is better at housekeeping and cooking than my wife. The help with childcare is huge. The downside is that she takes a lot of my wife's attention. But to be honest, before she was in the picture, our attention was taken up by the kid and her needs. We didn't have much time for each other before the friend started taking on some of the load.
So this is where we are. After over twenty years of being committed to the same woman, and never considering cheating, I'm considering a triad.
I am a believer in monogamy, but I think I'd be okay with a closed, committed, triad. I worry about it being a V with my wife as pivot, because I'd feel jealous and excluded. I worry about really hitting it off with the friend, but my wife deciding she can't go through with it. Then I'll have to deal with the sexual tension. I had never thought about another woman, but now that it's on the table? I've been thinking about her.
From what I've read on this and other forums, I guess I'm really lucky. The relationship is forming naturally. No unicorn hunting. If it all comes together.
I wasn't too concerned. I was sure my wife was straight. Then one day she asks if I'd like a threesome. I was shocked, but also intrigued. We started talking about it.
Friend wants Wife. Wife is curious to try, but says I come first. I am attracted to Friend, no problem there. Friend claims that I turn her on. I worry she only says that to get into a relationship with Wife, but if so, she's a great actor.
Wife does not know if she will be able to have a physical relationship with a woman. She's never tried. They have a very strong emotional connection, to the point I feel jealous sometimes of how close they are.
I do like having the friend in the home. She is better at housekeeping and cooking than my wife. The help with childcare is huge. The downside is that she takes a lot of my wife's attention. But to be honest, before she was in the picture, our attention was taken up by the kid and her needs. We didn't have much time for each other before the friend started taking on some of the load.
So this is where we are. After over twenty years of being committed to the same woman, and never considering cheating, I'm considering a triad.
I am a believer in monogamy, but I think I'd be okay with a closed, committed, triad. I worry about it being a V with my wife as pivot, because I'd feel jealous and excluded. I worry about really hitting it off with the friend, but my wife deciding she can't go through with it. Then I'll have to deal with the sexual tension. I had never thought about another woman, but now that it's on the table? I've been thinking about her.
From what I've read on this and other forums, I guess I'm really lucky. The relationship is forming naturally. No unicorn hunting. If it all comes together.