vinsanity0
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Awwww "hugs"...lol
Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!
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Awwww "hugs"...lol
WEIRD. This guy messaged me a couple months ago asking me if I was interested. He said he and a woman were interested in me for a threesome. Of course, I turned him down.
Yesterday he sent me 3 messages in one day, all asking the same thing. I saw them this morning.
"I see you online a lot... how's the dating experience going?"
And a bit later:
"You have a very interesting profile... how are things going for you?"
And then:
"Hey there, just courious, how's the dating is going for you?"
Is he crazy? Did he not know he sent me the same reworded question 3 fucking times?
So, just because it was weird, I messaged him back:
"3 messages in a row asking how my dating is going?"
And he wrote back:
"Good Morning. It's been going well. Have met some interesting women and enjoyed meeting them. It's a different way to meet someone and it has been fun.'
Notice, he answered a question I didn't ask! lol
And then he immediately wrote in a separate message:
"How has your experience been over the last month?"
So I replied:
"Well, I didn't ask you how your dating has been going. I wondered why you are so curious about MY dating, you sent me 3 messages in one day asking the same thing!"
He looks like Ricardo Montalban in a white scarf and a cheesy smile. Ugh. Lives nearby, and I hope he never finds me. lol
Yesterday he sent me 3 messages in one day, all asking the same thing. I saw them this morning.
"I see you online a lot... how's the dating experience going?"
And a bit later:
"You have a very interesting profile... how are things going for you?"
And then:
"Hey there, just courious, how's the dating is going for you?"
Is he crazy? Did he not know he sent me the same reworded question 3 fucking times?
So, just because it was weird, I messaged him back:
"3 messages in a row asking how my dating is going?"
And he wrote back:
"Good Morning. It's been going well. Have met some interesting women and enjoyed meeting them. It's a different way to meet someone and it has been fun.'
Notice, he answered a question I didn't ask! lol
And then he immediately wrote in a separate message:
"How has your experience been over the last month?"
So I replied:
"Well, I didn't ask you how your dating has been going. I wondered why you are so curious about MY dating, you sent me 3 messages in one day asking the same thing!"
He looks like Ricardo Montalban in a white scarf and a cheesy smile. Ugh. Lives nearby, and I hope he never finds me. lol
He answered:
"It took me awhile to see how this web site works. At first I thought if I saw someone's photo they were on line. Of course they were not. There were no instructions for this site so it was all trial and error . I think I've got it down now and feel more comfortable with it. Just too a little time to get it all right."
So I guess he's just learning how to do internet? Oy.
"It took me awhile to see how this web site works. At first I thought if I saw someone's photo they were on line. Of course they were not. There were no instructions for this site so it was all trial and error . I think I've got it down now and feel more comfortable with it. Just too a little time to get it all right."
So I guess he's just learning how to do internet? Oy.
FallenAngelina
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"If I see someone that is not a Christian I can marry her."
(I am Jewish.)
(I am Jewish.)
FallenAngelina
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Spork
Active member
There's a lot of talk about how men should approach women in the opening message on a dating site. Most women will say that we want something more than "Hi, how are you?" or worse the ones that are trite, poorly spelled, or clearly copy and pasted mass "playing the numbers game" messages.
Then men talk about how they waste time sending long, well thought out intro messages only to be met with silence.
There is a middle ground there to be navigated, methinks. And since we've branched off to other dating sites besides OKC and I'm not even on them anymore, I'm just thinking of one of the few "I'm trying to use this as a dating site" approaches I've had on fetlife not long ago.
So this guy....he's a sub with some very specific desires... He sent me a message titled, "A Proposal For You" and it was several paragraphs of his most explicit fantasies, NONE OF WHICH was anything I'd have the slightest interest in. And there is nothing in my profile which should indicate I'd have an interest. In fact I say that I'm polysaturated and not open to new relationships, and all of my relationships are listed...so yeah. He was barkin' up the wrong tree.
I'd tell ya'll what he said, but it read like a page out of "120 Days of Sodom" by the Marquis de Sade, so not exactly appropriate for casual conversation.
I did not respond, though I almost felt a little bad about it...and I found myself actually hoping he was copy and pasting and playing a numbers game, because if not, the guy like spilled the entirety of his guts into that message and I read it and thought, "I just have no idea at all what to even say to this. Other than...no thanks? Your kink is not my kink but good luck?"
Man...
I think the slight uptick in random dudes trying to hook up with me on fet has to do with the upcoming convention, which I've RSVP'ed I'm going to. I think they are hoping to connect and get some play on, either of the public or private variety.
Then men talk about how they waste time sending long, well thought out intro messages only to be met with silence.
There is a middle ground there to be navigated, methinks. And since we've branched off to other dating sites besides OKC and I'm not even on them anymore, I'm just thinking of one of the few "I'm trying to use this as a dating site" approaches I've had on fetlife not long ago.
So this guy....he's a sub with some very specific desires... He sent me a message titled, "A Proposal For You" and it was several paragraphs of his most explicit fantasies, NONE OF WHICH was anything I'd have the slightest interest in. And there is nothing in my profile which should indicate I'd have an interest. In fact I say that I'm polysaturated and not open to new relationships, and all of my relationships are listed...so yeah. He was barkin' up the wrong tree.
I'd tell ya'll what he said, but it read like a page out of "120 Days of Sodom" by the Marquis de Sade, so not exactly appropriate for casual conversation.
I did not respond, though I almost felt a little bad about it...and I found myself actually hoping he was copy and pasting and playing a numbers game, because if not, the guy like spilled the entirety of his guts into that message and I read it and thought, "I just have no idea at all what to even say to this. Other than...no thanks? Your kink is not my kink but good luck?"
Man...
I think the slight uptick in random dudes trying to hook up with me on fet has to do with the upcoming convention, which I've RSVP'ed I'm going to. I think they are hoping to connect and get some play on, either of the public or private variety.
opalescent
Active member
No one is entitled to a response to an online dating message (or in general, IMHO). People who get butt hurt over it (usually men) need to get over it. It's part of a general attitude that men are entitled to a woman's (any woman) attention.
I don't respond to most of the message I get and I have no guilt over it. I do send people messages - if I get a response that's an awesome bonus. I don't mind if someone ignores me because their response (and no response is a response) is not about me, it doesn't make me lesser. Just means they aren't interested and that's ok.
I don't respond to most of the message I get and I have no guilt over it. I do send people messages - if I get a response that's an awesome bonus. I don't mind if someone ignores me because their response (and no response is a response) is not about me, it doesn't make me lesser. Just means they aren't interested and that's ok.
Spork
Active member
FFS...
I have in my fetlife profile that insofar as making new connections is concerned, I'm an outgoing extrovert who's down to make friends and I am enthusiastic about introducing new people around in the scene, remembering as I do, how awkward I felt at my first event.
Also I say that I am relationship saturated, and not really seeking new partners right now. Though I made it all EVEN MORE CLEAR last night because I'm seeing more silliness than I was for a while.
This guy sent me a message first saying he was considering a move to my city and wanted to know if he could befriend me and have me introduce him around and whether I could recommend any clubs.
I said, why yes I can highly recommend my favorite club, and advise you of one I'm wary of (though the choice is yours) and would be happy to help you get comfortable should you come here, and to please be in touch if he decided to attend any events I'm going to at Voodoo.
He says, then:
*ahem*
"Yes Wednesdsy. I'll take you up on showing me around. I'll be there. I'm reading your profile Your man is your Dom and your kind of his sub or is more your both ass kickers I'm going to the Baseball game but I ll come over around 7. How fun are you? If we get that trust built. I have an idea. I try to make things not awkward. Let's see. We think alike in terms of two people that are about the same age
Thank you"
Looked at his profile. He is wanting a cougar FemDom or couple to take him on as a houseboy servant. He is very rambly and very slightly incoherent in his wall o' text.
I sent him a "Hey, whoa there. I am not the one." message last night. Thinking I really want Zen to go to the discussion group with me tomorrow night if I can get him to...just a lil backup, this guy seems overzealous.
I have in my fetlife profile that insofar as making new connections is concerned, I'm an outgoing extrovert who's down to make friends and I am enthusiastic about introducing new people around in the scene, remembering as I do, how awkward I felt at my first event.
Also I say that I am relationship saturated, and not really seeking new partners right now. Though I made it all EVEN MORE CLEAR last night because I'm seeing more silliness than I was for a while.
This guy sent me a message first saying he was considering a move to my city and wanted to know if he could befriend me and have me introduce him around and whether I could recommend any clubs.
I said, why yes I can highly recommend my favorite club, and advise you of one I'm wary of (though the choice is yours) and would be happy to help you get comfortable should you come here, and to please be in touch if he decided to attend any events I'm going to at Voodoo.
He says, then:
*ahem*
"Yes Wednesdsy. I'll take you up on showing me around. I'll be there. I'm reading your profile Your man is your Dom and your kind of his sub or is more your both ass kickers I'm going to the Baseball game but I ll come over around 7. How fun are you? If we get that trust built. I have an idea. I try to make things not awkward. Let's see. We think alike in terms of two people that are about the same age
Thank you"
Looked at his profile. He is wanting a cougar FemDom or couple to take him on as a houseboy servant. He is very rambly and very slightly incoherent in his wall o' text.
I sent him a "Hey, whoa there. I am not the one." message last night. Thinking I really want Zen to go to the discussion group with me tomorrow night if I can get him to...just a lil backup, this guy seems overzealous.
FallenAngelina
Well-known member
missmindful
New member
Hmm. If it seems too good to be true.......
JQSugardaddy- Would you be interested in a sugar daddy?
Me: Maybe. If we clicked. I don't usually date younger men though. (He said he was 25, but looked much older, very handsome.)
JQS- Basically, you would take care of my needs, including over webcam when I travel. I would buy you anything you want or need, no limit. I'm very wealthy and generous. I'm 45.
Me-
I don't know. I honestly have never had a proposition like that before. I guess I would have to see if I enjoyed your company first. Not entirely sure why someone young and handsome like yourself would want this. Do you not want any emotional attachments?
JQS-
I'd like some companionship. I sadly don't have much free time so I have an offer. I'm stuck at work. If you get on webcam and give me a good preview, I'll buy you anything you want to prove that I'm real. You keep whatever I buy you no matter what, and decide if you want to continue.
Me-
Sorry, I would never do anything over webcam with someone I did not know and trust. Good luck to you!
JQS- No reply (surprise!)
I wonder how many women this person has gotten to do this.
JQSugardaddy- Would you be interested in a sugar daddy?
Me: Maybe. If we clicked. I don't usually date younger men though. (He said he was 25, but looked much older, very handsome.)
JQS- Basically, you would take care of my needs, including over webcam when I travel. I would buy you anything you want or need, no limit. I'm very wealthy and generous. I'm 45.
Me-
I don't know. I honestly have never had a proposition like that before. I guess I would have to see if I enjoyed your company first. Not entirely sure why someone young and handsome like yourself would want this. Do you not want any emotional attachments?
JQS-
I'd like some companionship. I sadly don't have much free time so I have an offer. I'm stuck at work. If you get on webcam and give me a good preview, I'll buy you anything you want to prove that I'm real. You keep whatever I buy you no matter what, and decide if you want to continue.
Me-
Sorry, I would never do anything over webcam with someone I did not know and trust. Good luck to you!
JQS- No reply (surprise!)
I wonder how many women this person has gotten to do this.
nycindie
Active member
Oh, there are whole websites/forums devoted to sugar daddies and sugar babies, and a lot of women are looking for as many sugar daddies as they can get. Basically it's... prostitution arranged individually. A sugar baby is a steady hooker they see regularly, without having to go through a pimp or madam or escort service. Usually it's older men who want a beautiful young woman to be their sugar baby, but I've only seen conversations about women who go and have sex in person with their sugar daddy.
I guess it makes sense that they jerk off on webcam with sugar babies, too, and just send the money through PayPal or something. But you never know if what you're doing on webcam is being kept as a video file, and who knows what they'll do with it! No thanks!
I guess it makes sense that they jerk off on webcam with sugar babies, too, and just send the money through PayPal or something. But you never know if what you're doing on webcam is being kept as a video file, and who knows what they'll do with it! No thanks!
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missmindful
New member
I think its some sort of scam, personally. He is going to send me what ever I want no limit AFTER I give him a "good show?" hahaha! I was thinking it sounds like prostitution, but I was bored and wanted to see what he was offering so I played along. I did report it, not that they will do anything about it.
Bimale9006
New member
No doubt the answer to my question is in this thread somewhere. But it is a long thread. What is a good ice breaking message/question for OKC?
nycindie
Active member
Whatever you do, don't use the same greeting/message for everyone. We can tell when it's just a copy & paste job! Read this thread for tips on what NOT to do! This is where we make fun of the worst offenders!
You take the time to read a person's profile, look at how they answer the questions, see what quizzes they've taken, and find something you can relate to or connect with. Then you tell them what it was about their profile that prompted you to write.
Make conversation. Imagine being at a social event and striking it up with someone. If it isn't written uniquely for each individual, customized according to what is in their profile, don't even bother!