Does size matter?

[Magdlyn]

I respect their privacy. If he told someone in a message and not on the board, then that person really didn't have the right to share that information with the rest us. If he wanted us all to know, it would have been in his own post.

Of course, it's their right to be private. I said I was "disappointed" he didnt tell more details so we could help more. I'm allowed to be disappointed. It's not nosiness.

I find it amusing that you used the third person "one wonders" rather than actually taking ownership for your inquisitiveness...

I find it amusing you're amused at a common term of speech.

 

[dingedheart]

I'd like to thank all the ladies who participated on this topic. If any of you have anything remotely tied to this topic, feel free to add it now. The reason I say this is because I think if this goes one or two days more I'll win the pool. I checked the rules and this post doesn't violate any, and won't count in the end.

I thank you all in advance for your help. Pool rules dictate I can not offer ideas directly on the thread, but I think we've really only scratched the surface. Just have fun.

Thanks again,
D

 

[Cancelled123]

Interesting question. Really, couldn't answer for the wife, if there are other issues affecting them. But as for me, the size of the tool matters a lot less than the enthusiasm with which it is used. Provided the size of it is in the normal range, it's a non-issue. My hubby is thicker than my bf, but I still enjoy the bf immensely, even in the same session. (We have occasional threesomes.)

 

[SchrodingersCat]

I find it amusing you're amused at a common term of speech.

I was amused by the context. My original post elaborated on the point, but I edited it before posting. Basically, I found it amusing that you chose to use the impersonal "one wonders" as a way to detach from the fact that it's actually you who wondered, rather than saying "I wonder" and admitting that it was really your own curiosity.

 

[IndieSolo]

I said I was "disappointed" he didn't tell more details so we could help more. I'm allowed to be disappointed. It's not nosiness.

Hell, I'll confess to being nosy! I do want to know! That doesn't mean I don't respect their right to privacy, but the husband did come to a public board to talk about it, and ask for some feedback from us, but without giving enough info, apparently! How can we make suggestions if we're only guessing at why this is an issue for her?

We responded to his original question, and he pops in to say:

While I appreciate everyone's hypothetical responses, I really am hoping to tap into this wide experience base. Surely there is someone out there who has experienced this, and can speak directly to it. From their personal experience.

Riiiiiiight... personal experience. With what? A condition he only revealed to one member secretly, after we tried to figure out where he was coming from in asking the question, and could only guess. No wonder our answers were hypothetical! But apparently, he had a problem with the "smart-aleck responses, all the haters, all the incredibly judgmental responses," and tells us he's disappointed because he "thought the poly community was more loving than that." So he disappears.

We'll probably never find out more, and that is disappointing because it could have been helpful to other folks, whether they participated in this thread or not. It's fine that he PMed BrigidsDaughter to reveal to her that it is a medical condition, but he missed out on an opportunity by bringing it to the community here. This place is anonymous. His/their privacy wasn't at risk. We have at least one member who is a nurse, and many others who are very knowledgeable about physiology and sex.

So, yeah, I'm curious. I'm nosy.

 

[SourGirl]

But apparently, he had a problem with the "smart-aleck responses, all the haters, all the incredibly judgmental responses," and tells us he's disappointed because he "thought the poly community was more loving than that." So he disappears.

Poof ~~~!!! There goes the theory that only women expect people to be "mind-readers," eh?

My dh: "Cocks and vaginas have a way of evolving into other things. Just yesterday I saw a small gherkin, and a big Bicks dill, and thought..."

Oh, never mind. I'm off topic.

Alrighty, I`m done for the night. Need to make a phone call. Behave, kids.

 

[idealist]

If this goes one or two days morem I'll win the pool. I checked the rules, and this post doesn't violate any, and won't count in the end.

I thank you all in advance for your help. Pool rule dictate I can not offer ideas directly on the thread. But I think we've really only scratched the surface. Just have fun.

Thanks again, D

May I ask what you are talking about? Thanks.

 

[dragonflysky]

May I ask what you are talking about? Thanks.

Ah... yeah. What she says?????????!!!

 

[dolphindream]

Kegel exercises. That's the answer. It will all be fine.

 

[Magdlyn]

Kegel exercises. That's the answer. It will all be fine.

But the wife has a mysterious medical condition about which we are not to know!!

 

[kdt26417]

And then there's the widespread notion that smaller vaginas are better than larger vaginas. Supposedly the smaller ones are tighter.

 

[Magdlyn]

And then there's the widespread notion that smaller vaginas are better than larger vaginas. Supposedly the smaller ones are tighter.

Do you mean smaller vulvas? Just tinier lips?

 

[kdt26417]

I think that's the notion.

 

[quirkyandkind]

I was thinking the same as others. How would you even choose someone, based on size, without asking up front and validating? It seems to me that would completely make the connection superficial and not based on connection and chemistry. Regardless if I may have a preference I would never lead with that being the focal point of whether I would consider a relationship with a man.

 

[Magdlyn]

I was thinking the same as others. How would you even choose someone, based on size, without asking up front and validating? It seems to me that would completely make the connection superficial and not based on connection and chemistry. Regardless if I may have a preference I would never lead with that being the focal point of whether I would consider a relationship with a man.

I of course, agree. The only time it matters, imo, is if there is a clear anatomical reason.

Women with shallow vaginas are going to find being fully penetrated by a larger, (say, 7-12") penis outright impossible. Those men would have to not insert the entire length into her, which the men (or the women) could find not ideal.

And women of size, with bigger thighs, for example, might need a longer penis (of at least average 5 1/2" length) to even fully penetrate the vagina enough for pleasure.

What bothers me is when men (and even women) think that a vagina becomes stretched out permanently, or even for hours and days, if penetrated by a larger than average penis! That's just not how it works.