JaneQSmythe
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The other side...
I agree with the others who assert that "relationship broken, add more people" formula is a recipe for disaster...
HOWEVER...
The ONLY stress in my marriage with MrS used to be that I have a higher sex drive that him. (In that I have one and he doesn't.)
In truth, my relationship with Dude (who is highly sexual) DID end up relieving that pressure for MrS. We can share the "love languages" that we have in common (the most important ones for each of us - Quality Time and Acts of Service) and I can get my "physical affection" needs met elsewhere.
I'm not saying the transition wasn't tough - it was. But it ties into the idea that one person can't be someone else's EVERYTHING...
I agree with the others who assert that "relationship broken, add more people" formula is a recipe for disaster...
HOWEVER...
The ONLY stress in my marriage with MrS used to be that I have a higher sex drive that him. (In that I have one and he doesn't.)
In truth, my relationship with Dude (who is highly sexual) DID end up relieving that pressure for MrS. We can share the "love languages" that we have in common (the most important ones for each of us - Quality Time and Acts of Service) and I can get my "physical affection" needs met elsewhere.
I'm not saying the transition wasn't tough - it was. But it ties into the idea that one person can't be someone else's EVERYTHING...
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